ok, so heres the scoop:

theres this hb9 that lives down the hall from me at school. we only had time to hang out once because i just met her near the end of the semester. We both went home for winter break and she lives 1hour 20 mins away. (we are meeting up at a major city near me)

She seems to be giving me alot of cues, but i still gotta find out if shes a tease.

she invited me to go w. her and her friends to the club this weekend.

my question is, how many friends do I bring w. me? should i just bring guys or some girls also?

I think this guy i know might already be hittin it, and im not sure if hell be there or not.

thnx guys, i got 4 days until saterday. (night we plan on goin.)[/u]

I don't like to go with a group of more than 4 other people, but when you get there and you join your group with another group, then the final numbers don't matter. If you are only meeting her there and none of her friends, then I wouldn't bring more than 3 other people, but that's only if some of them are girls, if it is just guys, then only 2 other guys is preferable imo.

If you are worried about this other guy hitting it, then make sure you don't show that you are jealous or intimidated in any way, you need to show that you are confident and could care less who she is with, or whether you get with her at all, because YOU have higher value than her and that is what is gonna make her want you.

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yeah i think 4 is the perfect number, 5 is overly crowded

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Ita with everythings been said. So go to the club... and show them you're the coolest dude in the joint.

IMO, the exact number of people you bring with you doesn't matter. What DOES matter is your attitude while you're there. A mix of guys and girls would be good, IF you are the leader of the group. If you're NOT the leader, you're gonna pretty much screw yourself anyway. Unless she just REALLY likes you already.

If you're the leader of the group that you take, it's only gonna help you raise your own value. And, when you merge groups with hers, you will have to become friends with her friends right away, too. That's ESPECIALLY important if there really is a guy hooking up with her already.

And, as has been said, don't let that guy affect you. If he is hitting it, he WILL attempt to make that obvious to you. Be prepared for that.

I agree with Rye's rule of three here. The exception is if they are your female friends; walk in with them in tow or more preferably arm in arm, and you've already opened just about every set in the house that saw you.

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You don't necissarily have to be the leader of the group to be an alpha male, just as long as you demonstrate that you aren't anyone else's lapdog and don't wait to take orders or ques from the other people in order to make your choices. If you are all on equal ground and respect each other, then you can be just fine.

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i agree, you cant just make yourself the alpha male of the group you have been around for years, it will seem like a power trip and stir up the ego's because everyone has one

like rye said, as long as everyone knows where they stand and are equals, you can still dominate

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thnx for the info. I will probably just take 1 wingman, so that i don't inflate the group too much. (most of my friends that are girls i have interests in, and i dont wanna mess that up)

update- her best friend, from out of state is going to be there. Besides making friends w. the BFF, are there any other ways to take advantage of this situation?

This is good, because if she hadn't been bringing a friend or two, I would have told you to bring two not one. Now that you have someone for your wing to interact with, it will make things more comfortable than having to include him in everything, or having him sit on the sidelines bored. You all become friendly and you make sure that she likes you, while your wing makes your girl like him (not too much of course) and then you switch and he occupies the friend so that you can isolate and have more intimate conversations so that you bond better.

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There really isn't a limit. Just make sure you limit the "losers" (i.e. social inept, poorly dressed, annoying).

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Welcome to the forum chio.

You need to realise that if you bring in 30 amazingly cool friends you will have massive and amazing social proof, but the whole point of going out to meet this girl is gonna be destroyed, because it is gonna be weird and awkward. They're also gonna want to hang with you and you're not gonna spend time getting to know her.

This is why I suggested the numbers I did. The spare friends will keep each other entertained, while being a small enough group to all know your intentions and not have enough interesting stuff going on that someone is gonna want your attention. It is small enough that she won't become intimidated as well, yet large enough that she will know that you have social proof.

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