I'm trying to figure out what to do with this situation:

A coworker of mine moved to another department a few months ago. When she was in my department, we got along fine although no signs of attraction back then.

Move on a few months and she sees me maybe once every 2 weeks. Each time she is very tactile (hugs, goes out of her way to say hello to me) and tells me I should come over to her desk and have a chat. We send messages back and forth and she invites me to hang out with her friends after work.

After that I gradually start talking and hanging out with her and friends a lot (sports, drinking, eat on weekends). Although we have almost no one-on-one time together.

This past weekend I ask her whether she would be up for drinks between the two of us only, she replies "yes with pleasure whenever you want but not next week as my boss has me on a project". (She had told me this earlier the same day and works crazy hours regardless).

She has seemingly become a bit more distant since and does not say hello to me at the company infront of other coworkers. In fact some coworkers have asked me if there is anything between the two of us.

Should I send her a message this weekend asking when she is free next week or wait for her to send me a message to see if there is an interest, with the risk that she is waiting for me to follow up.

Sorry to say you are in the friendzone. When she realized you wanted to be more than friends your relationship suddenly seems awkward. She is distant because she knows you will follow up on your offer.

Be careful when a girl says yes and then says an excuse for possibly not being able to follow through it shows hesitation, hesitation means current lack of attraction, no attractiOn means you wont be able to put your hooha in her chacha.

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Lay off for a while. Its hard to say whether you've crossed the bridge into LJBF, but you'll definitely get there if you keep telegraphing.

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