I tried my best to refuse being in the friendzone with a girl. It was plain as day from the time I met her. I worked with her from Feb-Oct last year. Now I might bump into her every now and then at a partime job. We got on really well the attraction was there and we would act like bf/gf without actually doing anything. We ony made out a few times and the start and then just txts and all that.

So with that said have you ever just ended up being friends with someone you like? this girl has been around and has been on my brain for a long time and I know she has male friends. Guys who she probably meets up so they are more of a friend to her than I am I guess but as I contacted her 3 times a week plus it just feels weird vanishing. I'm not sure what to do exactly as I do care for her and she isn't a bad soul, and is hot as hell.

Well we have been in contact for about a year. Most of the time she flirts and suggests to do thinks to show a bit of interest but I can tell if I was to take her up on her offer it wouldn't happen.

Like weeks ago we were talking about going for a xmas drink and I kept asking her often and she was like "maybe, it depends what day though" and then she approached me and caught me off guard one day, I was a busy and she was like "Hi I just wanted to see if you wanted to go for a xmas drink, where could we go" as it was so random my voice sounded a bit nervous and I suggested a day to her and she just said "Oh I'm free that day" and then I said to her if not that day then the week after would be good and she was like shall I let you know and then I basically explained to her that the day I suggested was fine and then when I did contact her that day she just said she was busy seeing her dad.

The following week I mentioned it again and she just said "If anything I will call you" which was not a good sign as she only txts me. I was annoyed that I sounded nervous when she asked me as any other time I speak to her I'm confident but it was random. I did suggest a place near me though as I thought it would be a better idea than going to her ends. I know she likes me but I don't think she sees me as long term material and the most I've gotten from her was a few make out sessions a year ago.

Sounds good man.

Girl has been driving me crazy for a lonnnnng time. I'm losing a bit of interest as in I know if I did go out with her she probably wouldn't see me again. As last year when we met up with eachother I never secured another date, but she decided 2 call me everyday for 2 months after and play gf!!!

On her facebook she writes stuff like "I'm single and it's going to take someone amazing to change that" and it's those things that put me off. She has all these guys after her some I think she might, others she is blowing off and she knows she can get any guy she wants.

Well, in some cases. I also talked to a pretty hot girl a while ago who had a bf, so I naturally did some field research about that bf because I think he is a total douche (not in the "good" way) and so does everyone else and she kinda does too I get the impression.

So I asked her how he got her interest and she said basically "He just kept asking". Cos she didn't like him at all at first, but he was just persistent enough and she was probably lonely enough to say yes eventually. Mind you this tactic probably doesn't work with women who get decent options all the time, but it works with the more shy reclusive types.

Edit: They've been together for more than a year and I am not getting the impression it's a weak relationship (mainly because she seems like a loyal person to me).

An attractive girl's friendzone is more of a prison than somewhere you randomly go just because you feel like it. The only time you should ever enter an attractive girl's friendzone is if she puts you there by refusing to ever have sex with you.

If you feel like your getting absolutely no where, friendzone them first fast. Make it abundantly clear that you want to be their friend, classic DYD stuff. This is magic because you control the frame of the relationship and you don't feel trapped.

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Yeah there was this one girl who I went out with a few times. I was attracted to her, but even though I still think she's beautiful, it turns out that I seriously enjoyed her company.

We still chill to this day. And I don't regret it.

Sometimes you wanna bang certain girls. That's natural. However, every once in a while an awesome girl comes into your circle and you find that you'd rather (surprisingly) be friends with them.

There's no law that say's you absolutely need to have sex with every 9 or 10 that walks by. Be a human being and have a few friends.

Besides, having female friends like that will actually increase your DHV, making you more socially acceptable and less threatening to your targets/other men.

Only problem I have with this one though is that she is a really funny girl but I can't seem to actually get her to go out and do things. So she is a flirty friend/former colleague who I'm just speaking with on the phone. It is hard to make clear where we both want things to go, especially with attraction and feelings involved. I might be seeing her aoon at another part time job I do but it's not like how things used to be.

Why not just be friends-with-benefits with her? Best of both worlds!

Seems like the type, always seemed like the type to me.

I've amped up the flirting more than right now, I'm speaking like I've got nothing to loose because I've tried everything else lol. The nice guy side is still right there but I'm showing a perverted side aswell.

Nah, she's not into that stuff. Too goody if you know what I mean... And to be honest with you, I don't actually know if I'd be able to handle something like that. Must be an inner game thing or something.

my take on this is that girl doesn't even want to be your friend, or fuck you, you have written a million posts on this girl, you have probably been trying to ''game'' her for a good year now, she always flakes, she wants nothing to do with you, she got you fired, she just does not want to be mean to you because you are not mean to her so she texts with you, but I would be amazingly surprised if she ever even hung out with you, this is a giant waste of time, you have a huge oneitis it is a terrible problem, the more you invest into this girl the worse it will get, you will only become more desperate and stalkerish and more obsessive over her, if you even make an effort to meet other girls is questionable because with even one or two more girls in your life you would probably see objectively how silly this is,


I MEAN THIS GIRL GOT YOU FIRED, WTF MAN...

She messaged me asking me if I wanted to go look for a college for her to join. I told her I was free on friday and called her a little later and she didn't answer but called me back alot later. She started flirting and then asked me if I missed her....

I said yeah and then asked her if she was free that day and she paused then said yeah and how we could go for a drink and then a sort of laughed when I asked her to keep her phone on. She then said she had to go and then when I called her back a bit later she wasn't as interested to talk and told me she was driving. Let's see if she actually even answers her phone that day..