I'm not sure how appropriate a question like this is in a pick-up forum, but here we go...

I've been with my girlfriend for a year, and we are still in love with each other and want to stay together. But I'm going to be moving hundreds of miles away in a couple weeks, and she's been very unstable since I've told her. She goes back and forth between happy and depressed, but it's mostly depressed. And I can't seem to bring her out of these unhappy phases, no matter how happy and optimistic I act. Can I get some advice on what to do about this? I've never dealt with girls getting depressed like this before.

okaaaay. um.

why are you moving away?
exactly how far are you moving away?
for how long are you moving away?
why isn't she going too?
are you two planning on trying a LDR or on ending it?

details...

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men look for respect women for security, she feels she is going to lose you, insecure, and she may be right ldr don't work..

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Moving away because of a good job.
It's about a 7 hour drive.
Probably 3 to 6 months.
She doesn't live with me yet lol.
Yes we plan to stay together.

Ok so how should I go about handling this? Yes, it will end up being a LDR.

arandom,

what would "your" ideal situation be?

would you like to take her with you?
would you like to stay committed?
do you want things to progress further with her?

seems that's another big part of the story that is missing.......

it's hard to give insightful advice, without a more in detail story of what is happening and why it's happening...

how old are you guys?

so you are leaving "for a good job" that only lasts three to six months?

is it like a contract job or something?

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My ideal situation would be staying with her. I have no plans of dumping her for no reason; she's an awesome girl. Yes yes and yes to all of the first 3 questions you asked. But unfortunately I can't take her with me. I'd love to, but I can't afford her living with me right now. The job involves relocating a lot. But I'm hoping to climb the ladder and eventually get a position that doesn't require me to move.

well you need to tell her that you see a future with her(if is the true) and it will only be for 3 to 7 months blah blah, get skipe or something like that and talk to her everyday... anyways is normal for her to be depress she loves you... which is kind of a good thing, as oppose of being happy you are leaving... use this line" you got everything i ever wanted and need in a woman, i am happy with you and i am not going anywhere my future is with you, i can not see myself with anybody else, just thinking about being with anybody else makes me sick and i want to throw up" do it with a lot of emotion...

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Thanks man, I'll give it a try and hope she cheers up. We actually already have SPAM and use it quite often. It's ironic how this kind of situation calls for the exact opposite kind of approach than a normal post on this site would: Giving her lots of attention, saying very gooey things, and giving her assurance that she has me lol. But I'm guessing these things change in a long-term relationship? I wouldn't really know since this is my first one.

i'd take her with. she can't eat that much.

you still gotta have heat, water, and lights...regardless of how many bodies are in the apartment.

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