| Hey everyone -- brand new to the forum. I never even knew communities like this existed, but it's pretty awesome.
The reason I am writing is because I've hit a wall and looking for advice from fellow dudes with game. Some background: I have been developing my game for about a decade now. I'm 27 and had a fantastic sex life in college. It slowed down a bit once I graduated -- I was too used to having a campus full of willing HBs and suddenly found myself not knowing where to go or how to get some. Gradually I readjusted and have had a moderately successful sex life since (though I never quite hit my highs of the College Years).
At any rate, about four years ago I met HB8 at a bar (objectively maybe really an HB7, but I think she's pretty fucking hot), and we hooked up. We had a great night and went on our separate ways. Flash forward a couple years, I ran into her again at a friend's party, and of course we hooked up again. At this point, I was still trying to relive the active sex life of my college years and was thinking of getting a fuckbuddy on the side. She fit the bill perfectly, and we started sleeping together fairly regularly.
Our time together became more frequent, but I made it very clear throughout the entire process that I needed to keep this nonexclusive and she seemed fully on board. Hell, we would often talk in bed about other people we'd been with that week. It was great, and gave me a level of comfort in a relationship I've never really had. I'm pretty old-fashioned: obviously the most important part of fucking is fucking, but I always spend the night and love waking up in a warm bed holding a naked HB, and I've gotten used to having her around. (Not to mention morning shower sex… big fan of shower sex.)
Anyway, we've been doing this for a while now, and it's pretty much my dream relationship and I couldn't be happier. Until yesterday when she said she wanted to make our relationship exclusive, or she just couldn't do this any more.
I've pretty much avoided her since. Honestly I'm pissed. We had a great thing going and now she's delivered me a fucking ultimatum. The short of it is that I have not been in a monogamous relationship literally since high school, and I have not a single regret about that fact. I once told my FB the only long-term relationship I would ever consider would be a threesome relationship (I think the variety could satisfy me), but obviously, that never happened, or I wouldn't be posting. I don't think it's right at all for my FB to ask me to give this up when she knows how important this is to me. There is literally nothing outside of work that I devote as much time to as my game. Don't get me wrong, I am not just a manwhore -- I actually place an incredibly high value on women, and just want to experience as many different women as possible (ok, within limits, I won't do less than an HB6). Without trying to sound cocky, I am pretty good in bed and also just want to pleasure as many women as possible, even if just for one night.
Anyway, I need some advice. I am NOT asking for whether I should go exclusive with her. I am 100% devoted to maintaining my current lifestyle, even if it means losing her. What I'm want is some opinions as to what the fuck happened that she went from being totally cool with being FBs to suddenly wanting to be exclusive. I'm also wondering if there's any way I can salvage this relationship or if I need to just say to hell with it.
Anyway, great to be here, and appreciate any ideas.
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