i like a girl from college but we are in the friendzone (yeah, it sucks). We send small signals to eachother that we might be interested in something more but it's not clear to neither of us :/ This time we were having a group dinner at my place but i stayed with her at home, starting to cook while the rest of the people (we were 6) went shopping for drinks. While i was alone with her in the kitchen I said that i liked cooking and she replied "really? well u should invite me to have dinner with you at your house when u feel like cooking something more special...cooking for two is much better than for a group because its easier to measure the right amount of food to cook!". Of course I said yes to that. I'm going to invite her this week to come to my place to have dinner, the two of us.

What do you guys think about this? How should i lead the conversation while she is having dinner with me? And how should i invite her (text message, phone call, in person)?

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Actions speak louder than words bro..

Buy some wine, light a candle, have a sweet desert on one plate with two spoons.

Create the appearance of what you want it to be.

I would suggest you be in the middle of cooking when she arrives then you have her help you finish dinner.

Give her a few ingredients to pick up before she arrives.. a text like " hey pick up some chocolate syrup on your way" That'll allow her to invest some into the interaction. In order for attraction there has to be investments on both parts. The more you get her to invest the better, Because then when you tell her to kiss you, shes more likely to do it because she has been following you instructions all night.

Its not rocket science, you got this one bro

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thanks for the tips man. I only think that the candles and the dessert on one plate is very romantic for our first date....i didnt do or said anything to her before that would allow that not to be awkward, you know? I was thinking of buying some scented candles for my room and leave them in a drawer and if it goes well enough that the 2 of us go to my bed i would light them up.

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If you do what you normally do, your going to get the results you normally get.

You have to be bold and do something different... Who said its too romantic for a first date? You? How often do you get laid? .. Now how often to i? ( just making a point)

Pull out some stops, be bold.. It may not agree with you because its not what you're used to. Just like approaching random women on the street doesn't agree with most guys until they give it a shot an see the reward.

Be BOLD.. I wouln't tell you nothing i wasn't sure of..

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I'd follow Fuze's advice/suggestions..I feel that if the girl wants you to cook dinner just for the both of you, because it would be more "special"..then you better have some good dessert, and you might as well light up some candles... You should do it. You might be the only guy to ever do that, ya know? She'd eat that up.


It is also my opinion that the food you cook/eat, is not what would make the occasion awkward...However, if you're being weird, you might cause things to feel awkward for her....Just stay cool...you'll be in the zone anyway because you'll be cooking...so everything should follow suit. Good luck

You're definitely getting the right signal. I agree, you have to be decisive and show her that how you truly feel because she needs to know that. You cannot keep on sending unclear signals now that you know she will be receptive. Good Luck!

You should do it in person.

Choose some dish you know very well and suggest that you make it together. Like for me I always make sushi because I make it well and can bullshit about whatever and they believe it. Then you do most of the work and just tell her what to do so that you are clearly leading the cooking and she is learning. It is fun and it removes a bit of the drama. If it becomes too dramatic she can get scared.

How to ask, take it up in conversation, start talking about food and stuff and mention that you would like to try making it yourself, or tell a story about how you did it once. And then say, now that I think of it, i was supposed to cook for you right? Why dont we do it this way... And so on.

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