A while back I was reading some PUA book that said somethign along the lines of, if you're attractive you'll start to see women making eye contact with you on the street. For some reason that got stuck in my head, and now when I'm out I'm constantly seeking out eye contact for validation. The days that I don't get it, I become all depressed and such. It's sad, I know, but I don't know what to do about it. Is this rational - do girls make eye contact with every single guy they're attracted to? Can you tell me something that'l make me snap out of it?


Thanks a lot.

When I started with pickup, I worked on my posture, my body language, my eye contact, basically on everything. I also went out and looked people straight into eyes. I was INITIATING it, and I used to feel the same way you do.

Now I behave differently. I just don't give a damn. I know my posture and body language is good and I know my eyes can make woman nervous. I don't look at them as much as I used to. Instead I "fool around" with my eyes, I basically enjoy looking at things people usualy don't look at (the sky, buildings, animals if there are any, etc.) while most of the people watches other people or the sidewalk. I simply don't seek that validation anymore.

Guess what happens....at the times I look into some woman's eyes, she's looking at me already pretty often! And even better, my EC response sometimes forces them to react (they quickly shift their eyes to something else, eg.)! This is when I engage the woman when I want to, because I can feel she is interested, at least on some basic level.

ditto

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If I'm with another person, or a group or people walking around, girls always seem to look at me.

When I'm by myself walking the streets its not that often.

I find that in shops and supermarkets it happens more often. Maybe because its more sporadic...they walk around the corner and suddenly see me, rather than seeing me walk down an entire street and then past them.

It does bug me if I don't have it happen to me at all some days.

Agreed completely! 90% of the time I catch a woman looking, I am focused on something else then turned my eyes towards her as she walks by. If you start staring at her from a distance I think she can sense it and most of the time will shy away.

Try this: next time you know an attractive woman is coming towards you focus on something besides her. When she gets closer slowly turn your eyes towards her. If she locks eyes with you give her a friendly smile.