So, i've been on this forum close to a month now. But read and made a couple posts in the summer. And the information here is great and very informative! But, at this very moment, somethings happened and i'm not quite sure what it is or how to fix it.

Lately, i've just gotten very deppressed, and i've just fallen into this hole that i just can't seem to find my way out of. i've become cold, and distant with everyone including friends and family. I've started caring less about what i do or say, and i'm getting a creeping feeling that this could be a bad thing to get into.

One thing that i've also noticed, with this new attitude i've suddenly acquired.. I seem to get a little more attention from women. Girls that would normally have never talked to me may interact with me, smile at me and just talk with me. Yet, i just don't want to trust them. Well, that's mainly because i used to get to invested in a woman, and probably gave them the message i was desperate for their attention and chased them away with that. But, i just don't want to go through that again. Things are already very lonely, and i just don't want to get dissapointed when yet another woman ignores me, and eventually acts like i don't exist.

I guess i am answering my questions about why i'm feeling this way.. But, how do i atleast cope with this feeling? How could i use it to my advantage? And if not any of those, how do i just feel happy again?

Hey mate,

I feel for you. I've experienced depression in the past and actually had a severe case of depersonalisation. I didn't even know if I was real or if the world around me existed. It was very bizarre.

A few things that helped me through was socially, even when I didn't want to, especially when I didn't want to. Also exercise. It releases endorphins which basically are like free drugs that are good for you. Think about it, how often do you see guys that are depressed down the gym? Rarely if ever.

Get out there and just hang out with friends, focus on having fun, book a vacation and give yourself things to look forward to. How about working on a project your passionate about e.g writing a book, learning to play guitar, starting a blog, taking up photography. Whatever! The important thing is to not spend time dwelling. You need to get out there and STAY BUSY.

How about thinking about all the good things in your life every morning? Even things like "I have potential to turn all this around" "I'm healthy" "I have friends" "I have the ability to walk" some people don't even have that.

It's never easy to get out of depression but like most things in life in the beginning you just have to force it until you climb out of the funk you're in.

Also don't worry about girls ignoring you or getting bored of you, The best way I've found to get over that is to play the field and have open relationships with a few girls at the same time. That way if one ignores you or goes cold it's on to the next. You'll also find that this helps massively with girls anyway. You'll come across more confident and calm when you're around them because you know that if they leave it's no big deal to you. They'll read that and react positively to it.

Hope this helps mate,

GoGetta