Hi guys,

A while back I started speaking to this girl online. I realise it's frowned upon by some but I was skint ("broke" to americans) and I needed to save money but still wanted to chat to women. Anyway when we first started speaking she asked me why I had added her and why I was chatting to her. I felt that I had nothing to lose so I said "I am talking to you because I'm bored and I want to f*ck you and I think that I will always be more inclined to talk to those I want to f*ck" she told me she started laughing and eventually after a few weeks she said that when she would speak to me online she would get butterflies. When she heard my voice on the phone she'd get chills and she'd think about me a lot. I think it was the mystery of me that she loved. it's so easy to be mysterious online without even lying about yourself which I don't do.

Anyway we met and I took her up London to see a show. I paid for the tickets she paid for the drinks. Everything was going good and then I took her back to my hotel room. She didn't have to come as she had a place of her own not far away but she decided to come in for a drink. We didn't have a drink we simply got in bed.

Now here's the tough part. I wasn't able to do anything with her as currently I'm suffering from erectile dysfunction. No idea what's causing it as I'm only 26. Nothing seems to get me aroused and when it does nothing happens. (Don't worry I'm handling it.)

However the next morning we were all good as I hadn't even attempted to do anything knowing what would happen. We ate breakfast, had a chat, she kept hugging me and grabbing me.

Today she texts me asking if I miss her. I tell her no as not enough time has passed. I ask f she misses me and she says no, she's been trying but she can't. I tell her she shouldn't try and it's normal that she doesn't miss me as we don't know each other well enough yet and she says she feels satisfied rather than she misses me.

Basically I want to get that feeling of butterflies in her stomach back. I'm not sure how I can do that though. I want to keep her interested while I sort out my own problems because trust me when I say this girl is incredible. She's dated celebs and modelled for playboy, she's had a millionaire buy her a house she's AMAZING!! So obviously I want to keep a hold over her while I get sorted.

Right now I'm playing the whole "You're like an annoying little sister to me" card as I' sure she never gets that but I don't know how long it's going to work or when it's going to get boring for her. I really need some advice.

Thanks guys

Wow this is a tough one considering, your "condition."

Hmm... I think that what you're referring to when you say "butterflies" is "attraction." She felt "attraction" to you when she talked to you on the Internet, but I think this is a case of her losing attraction for you. IMO it's due in part to you not fucking her when she was at your hotel room. She might be thinking a slew of things:

"Is he not sexually attracted to me?"
"Does he just want to be friends?"
"Does he have an STD?"
"Is he gay?"

You might end up in the friend zone here, but it sounds like you're doing your best to delay that with the teasing. You might just have to be honest with her about what's going on with you. Then, SHOW her you're attracted to her with more teasing, and lots of kino. Slap her on the ass so she knows you're not gay.

Eventually this girl is going to want to fuck or friend you so get your "condition" better and give it to her.

Hey thanks for the advice. I like the concept of fuck or friend but isn't there a way of making her hang on (the longer she hangs on the more strong her feelings become.) I know that I experienced feelings like that with girls in the past back when I was an AFC. Any suggestions on how to manipulate this situation and maybe even turn this problem in to an advantage for a little longer?

Hey man this is a tough one!! I am saying this from experience in my younger days when I was terrified of women. They were attracted to me but I seriously had such shitty self esteem I was scared to have sex with them. Anyways, since I was shy I would pull all the PUA basics (not needy, not to much attention) already which is why I had success attracting them but not keeping them attracted. Long story short, I basically would lose the girls cuz I didn't escalate to sex. I did string some along for a month or two but always ended up losing them.

How long do you expect to have your problem solved?

Can viagara help? If you sex her once, you can hold it off till your fixed.

If you need to wait, I suggest 2 things.

1. Ramp up the attraction big time. You need to escalate and kiss her or she will think your massively gay. Don't get her too horny though.

2. Screw up your logistics on puropse. Take her out places where you cant have
sex. Not near her house or yours. Make up bullshit excuses before dates that require you to wake up super early. Basically make it physically impossible to get laid.

I'm sure you could tell her somehow, but I am a pussy and would rather hide it until it's fixed.

EDIT: You could tell her something along the lines of getting to know a girl before you give it up to them. Word it so you are the prize.

That's some good advice. I really don't think that Viagra is helping. I've tried it and I'm really chasing to get it solved. Thinking it's more sexual exhaustion that anything which is a real thing I didn't just make that up lol.

I'm praying that there is a solution and I know that eventually it'll get sorted. I guess I'll just have to take your advice and make it impossible to screw but keep meeting up with her and building up the attraction.

Hopefully it's not too late as she definitely isn't giving out as many IOI's as before.

Thanks man.