Hi I'm new to this forum although I've been reading about seduction/game for a long time. I'm a goodlooking guy with a decent build, outgoing personality, and lots of talent.

In short, I've been flirting/talking/kinoing with a slightly older woman at work who is married. I'm not here to ask about the morality of seducing a married woman, or the idiocy of "dipping your pen in the company ink".

Occasionally I sense sexual tension from her, but it comes and goes. For example, lately she seems to stand/lean closer to me, allowing me to "incidentally" rub my lower arm against her bottom - you get the picture. Her reaction to kino is always positive. There's flirtatious eye contact. When I mention specific restaurants/foods she says "oh I love that". I feel like there are plenty of IOIs and that they are genuine.

I always act like myself - I just try to maintain a positive and/or sexual state most of the time. I don't believe I've ever act needy.

Today I sent her an email telling her I'd like to show her a specific restaurant if she didn't have any other plans. Around noon, I stopped by and asked her if she wanted to go. She (at least acted as if she) hadn't read the email and told me that she wouldn't be free until 1. I froze, but I managed to say that it didn't matter when. I got the feeling she was trying to sugar coat it and make it sound like it wasn't rejection, but that was how I was feeling.

Obviously it's possible that she's just a flirt and is totally faithful to her husband. It could be possible that she's uncomfortable doing anything with someone from work. Also, it almost felt like she was fishing for the answer to "do you really like me, or are you just looking for someone be your friend or to keep you company?" But the flipside is that maybe she just doesn't see me as a potential lover.

I don't know where I stand now, or what I should do. The way I see it - there are two possibilities: 1) She doesn't want me as anything more than friend - which means I should just pull back on the attention. 2) She is attracted to me, but has some doubts - I should pull back a little, and work on building more kino, tension, etc.

What do you think?

I think I know what the problem here is.

You can't give her any choice or decisions to make in this seduction process. First off, she is a woman which means she doesn't want to have to "dirty her hands" in this process EVERYTHING IS YOUR FAULT/SHE WAS CAUGHT UP IN THE MOMENT. Secondly, she is married and that just makes everything even more true.

Take the lead. Don't ask tell. Don't wait for signs or clues that she wants you to escalate because they will probably never come. Just do your thing and if she doesn't go along with it then it is rejection.

I hope this helps. The first time I took this approach I was scared shitless, but now it is how I work every single set.

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You can't forget about me, stupid. Everywhere I go ima have my own theme music.

Uh, I figured it out today. When I came in this morning, I didn't give her any direct attention. There was another girl in the room who immediately noticed me because of something I posted on facebook. And another girl was following me in trying to talk to me. So, I had social proof, and I didn't have to ACT aloof. Anyways, when I came in, she raised her eyebrow and gave me a little smirk. I didn't respond because the other girl was catching my attention.

Later on during the day, several of us were waiting outside for a company meeting. I caught her in the corner of my eye noticing me talk to another guy about my truck. I could just feel the tension in her, even from the corner of my eye.

Finally, in the afternoon, she comes over to my cube for some bullshit reason trying to use my computer for something. I was like, "what the hell are you doing? Get up off this." Semi serious. I let her convince me to use my computer - but I didn't move out of the way completely. So she's leaning over me - and I think,"she's talking fast giving me some bullshit excuse to be here, and she's not insisting that I give her any personal space." So I start brushing my hand up against her forearm as she used the mouse. Then I touched the back side of my hand against her thigh briefly. She kept acting like she was doing something on the computer asking me questions. So I blatantly slid my hand down her thigh. She finishes whatever she was doing, and says, "it's getting hot in hear." Of course there was no blood left in my brain at this point so I didn't pickup the que - gave her a confident, horny deer in the headlights look. She looked at me like, "you're not gonna take me outside and fuck me???", then gave me a horny frustrated look. Unfortunately my fucking brain had shut down - things happen way to fast sometimes.

Basically, I believe the reason for her shutting me down when I asked her out was to gauge my emotional connection to her.

I see what you mean about just taking charge. I never realized that a "yellow light" is 99% really just a "green light", except that she doesn't want to come off as being slutty, or "getting her hands dirty" as you say.

LMAO @ "Dipping your pen in the company ink"

HAHAHA!

That killed me. Good post.