so i read the book "The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists" and this is how i ended up here. Im not really looking for a one night stand type of thing.

Right now im in this situation with this girl. I believe she is interested in me as ive got some hints from her already.

1st problem is i dont know if she is also interested in this one other guy. Is there a way i can get this out of her?

2nd problem is asking her out and getting her to come back to my place or even just having a date at my house.

This is a girl i met at school and we have been studying together for a while now. She is pretty comfortable with me as she does opens up to me when we talk, but i haven't really made any advances towards. I just read the book, so i have been trying a few things it mentions like the negs and being cocky funny.

Any suggestions or more reading material would be most appreciated. Thanks.

first of all man, confidence. it seems like you're a little timid about taking things further with this girl, so first step is to be a man about it. second, be confident lol. and i say that in a sense that, just ask her. in a laid back, relaxes sense, ask her if she wants to come back to your place tonight for popcorn and a movie (or w/e). by not making it such a big deal, at least to her, you place less pressure on it. if you seemed nervous and gittery all day, and were kinda skiddish as you asked her, she might get the sense that you are really attracted to her and are kinda creepy. if you ask her to come over as a friend, there is no pressure.
as for finding out about another guy? again, ask her. say she does come over annnd you guys are eating dinner at your place, just ask, be like, so ________, any guys in your life right now? as long as your relaxed about it, it wont seem weird. it will leave her thinking too, because she wont know if you are asking her to come over and asking her about guys because you are friendly and just making conversation, ooorrr if you are interested.

those are just some basic ideas man, good luck,

PB

First off, welcome to the forum. Don't worry about not being interested in just having one night stands with women, that's not the focus of the forum, the focus is just learning to be able to get whatever it is that you are looking for with women. Whether that means you want to increase the number of women you have slept with, or be able to have relationships with several girls to make your life more interesting, or if you just want to be able to successfully attract the girl you want to marry when you meet her.

Prettyboy is right about just asking her to hang out, that's the only way to make progress and if she's as friendly as you make her sound, then she won't say no, because its "just hanging out". Its what you do while you're hanging out that counts though. Make sure to kino, its what seperates friends from lovers.

You can use Prettyboy's approach and just straight up ask her, nothing wrong with that at all, but you can also just not worry about it and just see where things go between you two and that way you don't make yourself nervous thinking about other guys that she might say she's interested in. If you do things right, then she won't care about them anyways.

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Well i just want to make an update that things went pretty well. Not sure if i did everything exactly right. Basically this is how it went down.

We were walking out of class with another guy as well. When he started to leave i told her to stay here for a minute. Then we started walking to her car.

ME: So, do you like GUY1?
HB8: As in how?
ME: As in would you go out with him?
HB8: No why do you ask?
ME: Just wanted to know. What about me?
HB8: Maybe.
ME: Then come over friday night for dinner and we can watch a movie after.

I was going to throw in a time constraint in there, but before i could she said she had to go out of town friday. So i told her next monday then and she agreed.

Right now its cold outside so i decided to rub her back a little bit while talking to her and warm her up. Im not sure if i gave in too fast, as if i should have said something like well, then maybe ill have to think about asking you out or something along that line.

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But earlier that day i had another class with a girl that i thought dropped as she didnt show up or ever message me back. When i did see her the first thing she said was, "You never got back to me when i messaged you". So i basically just said ok and shrugged it off even though i never got her message, although i didn't tell her that. It was in the middle of lecture so i couldn't really say much anyway. But then i started negging her and doing some keno. I threw in a little comment about a scar she had on her elbow and rubbed it a little bit. She told me the story behind it and just called her evil knievel. We had a lab in class that day so i told her i guess shes in my group since no one else was there that i normally group up with. Did some more keno and threw out a few negs here and there.

Problem that i have right now is throwing out those negs. I try to find them, but sometimes i just can't find much. Should i just make something up?

I also told this girl to call me since she already has my number. Is this a good thing to also let them call you or should i take the initiative and call her? Ive always told women they can call me (Ill call them once, then after that i have them always call me). Is this a good thing or bad thing?

Thanks.