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Did I hurt your feelings or something?
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You gave the OP your answer with your link and said you were out. To answer your question, if you read everything I wrote in this thread it will make sense because it all is consistent.
BTW...it is wrong that women only date up and not across or down. They do all of them. If you have anything further to say on this subject, PM me. This is getting silly.
Ok... I'm going to clear this up with one final post. I'm going to explain this to you very well so you actually understand...
OP Asked his original question of why it is easier for a guy who is a 5 to get a 3, but harder to get an 8. Your first answer was actually fine. Alluding to the fact that girls prefer guys who are of higher value than them on the attraction scale. Which is fine. Then when OP made the statement which actually agree'd with your first answer that girls date up, not down. You tried to be clever stating that this was not the case and that value is actually built on commonalities. Then you actually went completely off the topic of why it's easier for a 5 to get a 3 but harder to get an 8, by bringing cold approach and warm approach into things. This did not answer OP's question at all, you stated that mr 5 will be better able to get ms 8 if the approach is warmer...
I DISAGREE'D. I made the point that it doesn't matter whether the approach is cold or hot. A girl who is an 8 on the value scale will genuinely want a guy who is at her level or above. And that it doesn't matter whether it is a cold or warm approach, a girl who is an 8 will still dismiss a guy at the lower end of the attraction spectrum because he can't provide the actual value that she requires to satisfy her. The job analogy actually proved this further. You don't get a job that requires a skill level of 8 by coming in with a skill level of 3, even if there is a recommendation or you like the same football team as the employer. You seemed to allude to the idea that commonalities is what girls value... and that a guy who is a 5 on the attraction scale could actually get an 8 through commonalities.
Then I made the point that
'commonalities don't do much for attraction' READING REALLY IS FUNDAMENTAL HERE. Because if you actually read that statement and understood what I said instead of trying to sound clever, then I'd never have to be trying to explain this point to you.
I never stated that commonalities can't be used to help you in a seduction, because they can. But only that commonalities will never increase or decrease her level of attractiveness to her. I made the point that commonalities are great for rapport, but that they don't create attraction. And that without attraction, a guy who is a 3 is not fucking a girl who is an 8 because he has commonalities with her. She would have to find something about his personality, attitude, looks, way he looks, lifestyle and ability to seduce her attractive. If she only has commonalities with a guy then she will friend-zone him. Therefore COMMONALITIES DON'T DO MUCH FOR ATTRACTION... DO YOU UNDERSTAND NOW?
Then you tried to sound smart again. Stating that attraction in women is not the same as attraction is for men. You seemed to make a point that you think that commonalities can actually make a girl sexually attracted to you? That they actually do something for attraction? However, as I explained, if this was the case then girls would want to fuck people they had large amounts of commonality with. This isn't the case you see... because rapport and attraction are two separate things (I never claimed you didn't agree with this, I was just using this fact to further my point that commonalities don't do anything for attraction).
Just as a woman can improve her sexual attractiveness by wearing clothes that extenuate her attractive features. Men can also do the same. You see, men value face, hair, tits, ass, legs... Women value face, height, hair, shoulders, chest. Men value a flirtatious personality and ability to please sexually... women value a flirtatious personality and ability to please sexually. Women tend to like deep voices, men seem to like high voices from women. We are polar opposites and as the saying goes... OPPOSITES ATTRACT. That's the way that it works. Just take a look at all of the couples you see, you will probably notice one strange thing... the guy is usually just a few inches taller than the woman. You can't argue with nature.
What you are explaining is where commonalities can help with the rapport side of seduction. WHICH I TOTALLY AGREE WITH. I use rapport in some of my seductions when there is a rapport issue to be solved, and I also find commonalities sometimes to help with this. However I'm not stupid enough to think that my ability to build rapport with girls is what makes them attracted to me or helps with the attraction whatsoever. I don't think that just by finding commonality with a girl who is a 8 if I was a level 3 in attractiveness would make me any more likely to experience sex with her. I would have to raise my attractiveness value for that to happen. Then if rapport was a problem, I could find commonality. But most of the time rapport just isn't needed.
Once again my original statement was "commonalities don't do much for attraction" READING IS FUNDAMENTAL.
Now... I've challenged you to explain how commonalities can actually do anything for attraction. But you have failed to give any answer as to how they can. Maybe you could give that example of how a 3 could use commonality to get a girl who is an 8 to have sex? You see, this is reality and in reality the jock fucks the hot cheerleader, not the geeky nerd kid. Even if he doesn't have much rapport with her, she will still find him more attractive.
You would actually find that you've contradicted yourself many times in this thread. I think it's mostly because you wanted to sound smart. The answer to OP's question is very very simple and you tried to over complicate things by stating that value is built on commonalities. Which just isn't true for sexual relationships, but it is for friendship. If there is something that we're all missing here then do feel free to explain... Because as far as I'm concerned girls who are 7's go for guys who are genuinely 7's and above.
If you want to actually explain why biology and the natural nature of evolution is incorrect then do feel free to PM myself or answer in this thread.
Also feel free to include how the fuck commonalities do anything for attraction. Because as far as I'm concerned... commonalities build rapport.
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'commonalities don't do much for attraction'
... Not "Commonalities aren't useful in seduction"... Reading is fundamental. Do you understand now?
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