I'm 50-50 with the argument about him fucking somebody new. I had this girl in 2010 (didn't really have her - everybody but me had her, but I was her boyfriend). I knew she was cheating on me with anyone and everyone, so I got a new girlfriend and dated them both at the same time (I was an asshole who had no idea what the fuck he was doing) ...I was still obsessed with a dead end girl who had no interest in me and called herself my girlfriend to shut me up lol. The oneitis was strong.

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I see it like this. Dude made 10 threads on one "ex"(girl he went on dates with and didnt kiss) then when she didnt continue seeing him, a few more threads, then when she messaged him on fb a few threads calling her his "ex." Now months later...another "ex"..oh wait..its a chick who wasnt an ex, just dated but he kissed her is messaging him on fb, AFTER A FEW MONTHS COINCIDENTALLY, and he's asking the same questions again. But no..its different..this is "another" girl, kissing "happened" and he's banging a chick now. My guess, is he didnt want to make it known that she was just a girl he went on dates with because the advice would be "oneitis" and now he's claiming to be banging someone cause the advice would also be "bang someone."

If a guy is banging and dating another chick, why is he asking for ideas on where to bang or take this "ex" out? If I just bought a car, I'm not asking how to buy a car. By calling her an "ex" either OP is being DISHONEST, so he can continue to ignore advice, or STUPID, if he thinks an ex and a girl you dated are the same thing, or even close situation. Now, if he really thinks an ex and date, are the same thing, then how do we know he even knows whats the difference between sex and holding hands? Serious question. He could be holding some chick's hands and confusing that wit banging, because "it's similar"

If you went on 10 dates and couldnt even make a move, wouldnt you not focus on the pussy you're getting now if you're getting it, or would you focus on a chick liking your fb and creepily calling her your ex. Its not just the "ex" word thats creepy...its the way he describes the whole thing as if it were a relationship. I really hope he was just trying to hide facts, and he doesnt really think of this girl as an ex or tell people in real life she was. I'd rather him be a liar as opposed to that creepy.

Let me keep it simple OP. Even if your largely coincidental story is true, which I doubt it is [PS...If you're banging a chick, why not just take the old chick to the same things you and the do chick do?..Why would you NOT know what to do with this chick if you're currently doing them with another chick?], anyways, if this story is true, and you werent being dishonest...IT'S CREEPY AS FUCK

It's creepy to describe a girl who you've fucked 100 times as your ex.

It's even more creepy to describe a girl you fucked once your ex

And its HELLA FUCKING CREEPY to call a chick you went on some dates with your ex.

And this is the 2nd time, if you're being honest.

Still dont think its creepy? I dare you to message this old girl and ask "whats my ex been up to today?" and see if she thinks thats NORMAL. The difference between you and most posters who ask for advice on a chick, is if the chick ever read their post on the chick, the chick would think "Wow...he's such an asshole for writing about our shit!" For you, if this chick read this, she may be heading to the cops due to this "ex" title you've associated with her.

A girl you fucked is NOT your ex.
A girl you kissed is NOT your ex.

And if you think that makes them an "ex", then I don't want to know what you're labeling as "sex."

Usually I'd side with somebody as deluded as OP just to disagree with Neo... but I can't.

That was pretty fuckin' lyrical, Neo. lol "happened" killed me a little. OP, pay attention to every comment in this thread, especially the last one.

It doesn't really make any difference if you're lying about banging a girl. The aim should be to bang more, at least for the next year or 2 while you find yourself and develop a better understanding of women. Again, read and apply the thread that I wrote. The first couple of lines apply to your situation, even though she's not your ex, or even any closer to being your ex than I am.

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I don't think any of them as my ex it was just easier to post that so I would get more information and advice. I'm sick of people calling me some creepy stalker. I didn't message her for months and she messaged me.

I really want to make it clear she is NOT my EX! For god sake I am banging a chick but not interested in a relationship with her. When you have no interest in the girl it's just sex. That's why I don't care about her do you guys not get that.

There was only one chick I'm talking about who I dated! And for the record she did a lot of the pursuing so stop making me out to be some creepy stalker when I'm not. We did kiss, now I have know her over a year. We talk on and off.

Its a case of oneitis but if you don't meet other chicks which you like what the fuck do you do!

I hate the guys who turn up and lose their temper like that. The oneitis is so strong that they're incapable of understanding that they've been given advice. To this guy it seems like "NOBODY IS FUCKING GIVING ME ANY ADVICE!" but it really means "NOBODY IS TELLING ME WHAT I WANT THEM TO TELL ME" lol

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The advice was to move on and date other women, have done that, but still like this girl.

If your advice is to go with girls I'm not interested in then it's a waste of time. I only posted on here because she messaged me again. Otherwise I did not contact her for 3 and a half months and went on with my life.

I just wanted to know how to respond to this.

The advice was to do that, I have done that, but I haven't done that

Strong.

You want to know how to respond to this BECAUSE YOU WANT TO FUCK HER. HENCE YOU HAVE NOT MOVED ON.

How do you not understand this? seriously.

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If she messages me what do I do? Just ignore her?

Ok let's try this another way.

What do you want from this woman?

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You have a problem not making moves. Why not put your efforts on fixing that instead of on this girl. I mean seriously... There are so many women out there.. I can't believe that hoping to reconnect with ex dates through fb is a thing.

If you don't meet chicks you like then the problem is YOU. All the chicks in your city your state tinder pof match okcupid, the gym, the mall, bars clubs, work, a million meetup groups and activities... Is it really a problem to meet a woman you like with so many options? What are these RARE qualities that you can't find out there?

For these oneitis threads, please start giving reasons why these girls are something special to pursue or even care about. And if you're finding that you're not liking the majority of women you meet consider you're not dating properly and using the vast array of places and activities to meet people or maybe women aren't for you.

The problem isn't that they don't like the women they meet. The problem is the women don't like them. Because they go on 10 dates with them without making a move.

So then they end up obsessing over the one girl that for some reason decides to be more aggressive and make moves on their behalf.

So obviously when someone rarely and finally gives them even the slightest hint of affection they immediately start dreaming her up as a perfect girl.

This is pretty much the definition of scarcity.

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Yeah... But then they just say I have other options... But this girl is special. Rolls eyes. If I have 100 fat girls I can fuck but a normal size girl gives me attention so she she becomes special... I'm still living from scarcity if she is my best option.

She's one of a kind literally, she mixed race and has a very unique look. She's stunning, our goals are the same, we have a lot in common, she has an amazing personality, we can chat for hours, I've dated a lot of good looking girls but they don't compare to this girl.

the girl which I'm sleeping with just now isn't my type at all but she over pursues me, most of the girls I've been with are ones who like me physically so makes it very easy.

I totally realise going out on 10 dates and not making a proper move is sucicide. Surely if this girl reached out she has some kind of interest, even if it's low. Ive determined she doesn't have a boyfriend just now.

I told you to read the thread and apply what it says... you didn't.

5 pages later and you're still telling us that she's one of a kind lol. I literally predict in the first couple of lines of the thread that guys will say this shit.

Treat all women the same, no matter how special you think she is

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