Yes, actually making it obvious to the girls that HE is trying too hard would be a good way to do it. Just don't look try hard yourself when you pull that off, lol.

OK, I'm not having any success with search function. I know that someone has asked this question somewhere before, but I'm damned if I can find it.

How do you go about getting a friend interested in you? I was a bit too drunk to run game on this girl when I first met her, and since then we're just friends, so I'm at a loss as to how to proceed. If it's too difficult then I probably won't bother, because I'm not that interested in her, she's just very hot, so it might be worth it.

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"Plan only what you must and live for the present - for tomorrow everything could change." - Personal Motto.

Ok, honestly, it probably is gonna take some work, but it also depends on exactly how she feels about you. If she really values you as a friend, she probably won't want to mess with that, which would make the job nearly impossible. If she's not set in stone on keeping you there, then it likely won't be that hard, actually. The simplest way to find out if there's a chance is to do the things that naturally increase a girl's attraction to you. Make some sexual comments. Don't be afraid to talk about sexual things. Show that you are preselected by other women and that you lead other men. Do the emotional push/pull with her, taking her emotions on a slight roller coaster ride to get her to feel like she's more invested in you. Do the 2 steps forward, 1 step back approach too. Kind of break the frame that she's used to from you. Surprise her by being more in control, pushing things with kino, then doing the take away right after that. She how she responds.

Let me know how that goes.

L.A. L.A. I have something for you.

So, about that situation I asked about a few moons ago. I have recently just decided she can only be a friend of mine now. Is this type of decision making signs of giving up to quickly or signs of cutting losses at the correct time?

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i lust for jessica alba, but now since she is preggers. I am lusting for Nicole!!! It's New Year's Day. It was Ben Franklin who said, "Be always at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let each new year find you a better man."

No man, definitely not giving up too quickly. After all, if things don't progress the way you want them to fairly quickly, you're wasting your time anyway. Honestly, for any PUA that has some skill, you should be able to move things along at a decent pace. K-close and #-close first night. F-close within the week at the very latest. Then, the PUA decides which path to put the girl on. Whether she is relationship material, fuck buddy material, or just a friend. So, I'd say your timing is fine. As long as YOU'RE sure that that's where you want her to be. Or, if she hasn't given you any, then definitely just put her in that zone.

Of course, you are obviously correct in this particular case. In all actuality, after a few moons of mulling over this and that, it came clear to me, that although she's an 8 on my scale, I simply lost the will to get to know her better. She'll make someone estatic just by simply knowing her name, but to me she seems like a project that I should tackle later on down the road. Ergo, keeping her as a friend could find her back on my radar again, thanks as always.

How do I find a coherent wingwoman, and what signs should I look for in that said femme fatale?

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i lust for jessica alba, but now since she is preggers. I am lusting for Nicole!!! It's New Year's Day. It was Ben Franklin who said, "Be always at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let each new year find you a better man."

Excellent question. I think the best qualities to look for are what Zip has in her personality. A woman who is intelligent, attractive, down to earth, has YOUR interests in mind as far as helping you to get in with the women you're attracted to. And remember, the attractiveness is slightly subjective, so don't get completely hung up on that one. She needs to be outgoing, obviously, otherwise she'll never be able to talk to her women. But, she does need to have intelligence, or she will never be able to hold a convo. She needs to have your interests in mind so that she can actually work WITH you in finding women that YOU are attracted to. And, the down to earth thing is more of a preference, but I believe it's important so that she can relate to you and to the other girls easier.

How you find one is a lot more difficult, lol. I'm STILL looking for a good one! If I could personally fly Zip out here to sarge with me every weekend, believe me, I would! lol. I've talked to women here and there and have brought this subject up with them, but it's not something that just any woman will be willing to do, unfortunately. Some women just don't understand what you are asking for. Others don't have the personality to truly help you. My best suggestion is what I'm doing . . . KEEP LOOKING! lol.

I actually asked a friend of mine just the other day about this, and she thought I was trying to get her hooked up with other guys! She's married by the way. I had to say no, you've got the wrong idea, lol.

Anyway, if the girl is a single girl, then another part of this equation is that you mutually agree that you will return the favor for her. Wing for her to help her hook up with the guys that SHE wants also. Even cock block for her to weed out the ones she doesn't want, lol.

P.S. Yes, I've had a couple of wingwomen, but neither was of much benefit, lol. Basically for the reasons I outlined above.

Dear Tripp,

Sometimes I will provoke a girl into saying something naughty, then give her a good ol' *whack* on the arm in a playful manner. Unfortunately, I'm a very strong man and tend to overdo it if I'm not extremely careful. On the other hand, if I'm extremely careful when I *whack* her, I come off effeminate.

So, what would be the best course of action here, and which side of my hand should I use? Please keep in mind I do not peacock with a hat or any other soft or fluffy items to *whack* them with.

Thanks ahead of time for the awesome response sure to follow

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Hey Roads. Sorry it's taken me so long to get back to you here. First of all, if you use the palm of your hand to touch her, it shows more warmth to her. You're more comfortable and open with her. She will appreciate that.

Ok, this will sound different, but considering your strength, this is what I would suggest. (I actually used to have the same problem when I worked out regularly). Wrap your hand around her arm, gently, look her straight in the eye, and with a serious face say "(gasp)I can't believe you just said that!", then break the serious face and smile big. This will surely leave a "wow" impression. Most likely it will take her mind a minute to catch up. She'll realize you're unpredictable, which of course is a good thing. She'll know you have a sense of humor, a good thing. And, the kino will still be there, also a good thing.

What is the best way to get rid of AA? I dont have it at the pub when Im drinking...Also in almost every situation I been in if I survived the aproach I at least kiss closed if not a Full close long before I knew of this PUA stuff.

Thanks

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Ich leibe deutchland!!! but glad to finally be back home in Nashville!!

Mainly, two things. One is to practice as much as possible. The other is to realize something . . . this is basically a fear that you're going to fuck up. You have to understand that it doesn't matter if you fuck up. Those girls that you are afraid to approach? They are just as afraid as YOU are. They are afraid no guy has the balls to actually talk to them. Also, when they go to sleep at night, they aren't thinking about the little thing that YOU did wrong when talking to them. They are thinking of the little thing THEY did wrong when talking to you. So, if you fuck up, brush it off and keep going. It's possible they won't even notice, and if they do, laugh it off. Don't take yourself too seriously.

Also, remember that when you see that girl that you want to approach . . . if you DON'T approach her right then and there, you will likely never see her again, thus never have the chance again. So, when you do open her, it doesn't matter if you mess up or not, because you probably won't ever see her again anyway, UNLESS you like her and ALLOW her into your life.

So, when you're standing there, wondering whether you should approach or not . . . tell yourself "I'll never see this girl again anyway, so just go for it."

I have a question for you. Are Pick Up and being a "gentleman" mutually exclusive? Do you switch or blend the two ideas? Why or why not?

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No, they are not mutually exclusive actually. At least, not as far as I'm concerned. Just because I have a strong mental frame does NOT mean I can't or shouldn't be a gentleman. Take, for example, me "reminding" Brad to keep his word to you, lol.

Now, admittedly, in a club you won't see much of my gentelmanly side, but that's because of the environment. However, even there that side does surface. I'm not a complete asshole to the girls. I just show my strong mental frame. I joke with the guys in the clubs too. Now, if a guy gets physical, as with last night, I stand my ground. Or if a guy OR girl is drunk and can't stand up, I will be a gentleman and stop dancing or whatever I'm doing and help them to get off the dance floor, or help them to sit down, or whatever. I've done that several times.

I think I blend the two, pesonally.

Good question. Most people just have the complete wrong idea about what an alpha male really is.

my question is what should I do next?
so heres my situation
ok so I got a # of this HB8
and called her and she asked me to come to a party
I couldn't go so I called her the next day with no response
weeks later I ran into her and had really awkward small talk
I thought i was fucked until she facebooked me and said "txt me sometime"
is this her wanting me to make a move?



HB8: when are you gonna come hang out with us?

ME: depends on my schedule
and who is us?

HB8: me and the girl who is practically attatched to my hip, We have lots of fun... you know you want in on it lol

ME:can never have too much fun
ah! I just remembered there is gonna be a party tonight

says she can't go

so a day or so later I ask "when are we gonna have that 'lots of fun'?"


and no response yet
what is my next move??????????????????????????????????????
I think I need a stronger SOI

hope you can help
I need to get this off my mind so I can study 4 exams

Ok, yes, that IS her wanting you to make a move.
That's a definite IOI. Again, a definite IOI. Sorry man, but kind of lame with this response. Ok, that last question is VERY needy. And that's why she hasn't responded. Your next move is to tell her there's a party and TELL her to come along. If she mentions her friend, TELL her to bring her. If she flakes or says no, or ANYTHING that doesn't result in her coming, you FREEZE HER OUT.

And, actually, that move is only if you HAVE to contact her to set your mind at ease. If you have the willpower not to contact her, then your next move is to freeze her out IMMEDIATELY, AND find some other girls and don't keep her from knowing. I mean, DON'T go brag to her that you have other girls, but don't try to hide them from her either.