Never, ever say this to a new girl, lol. You just dried her up really fast. She KNOWS you enjoy spending time with her, and that's she's making it difficult for you to get together. She expects you to get the hint.


Wow. This is just bad. You might be able to get away with this with a girl who is in love with you, but not a fence girl.


Ugh.

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Not going to be condescending to you, I believe one day it might all be clear how to escalate. I will offer one gem of advice....

Don't ask if ANY girl wants to ..

"Hey do YOU want to maybe get a meal next time."
"Hey do YOU want to go to this swanky bar i know..."
"Hey maybe sometime we can go to the park by Tom's house"

You are putting yourself in a dynamic where the event is DEPENDENT on her...... instead offer her to join you for something you ARE ALREADY DOING

"Hey I know this amazing place that does lamb kabob and i'm going to get one after class tonight, if you're free you should come"
"Hey this place has a mechanical bull, my friends are all going to ride it this friday.... throw on your flannel and stop by, we'll be there!"
"Hey i'm going to the park by tom's to clear my mind, you can join me.."

Notice in none of these situations have you lost ANYTHING if she doesn't show up.... You already planned on doing this and she has the opportunity to step in to your world and see how you live. You don't need her to make the event, and there is nothing akward about next time you see her.... At minimum you'll have a great story for next time you conversate..


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UPDATE

Relaxed a lot about the situation and started being a bit more flirty/ suggestive with her. Went out for dinner tonight then kissed her on the way home, she then said "this shouldn't happen" then kissed me again to which I said "why not?", and she replied "it's my final days of uni, I've don't this before..." I then said " I don't know, we might regret it later"

She was crazy into the kissing once we started. Thanks for all the help guys. I have 4 weeks before she finishes university for good. What should I do now? She lives abroad and will be studying the other side of my country next year... :/

Lol....it has been two weeks since that happened..I am happy you relaxed about it. I don't know if you will listen to the people that have been trying to help you. Listen. It's time to close the deal. Before final start and she gets swamped, you need to close....but I already see you asking questions about what you should do now that she is gone.....lets focus on closing first. Invite her to your place. Or drinks and transition to your place. It is time to get even more sexual.

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Cheers for the encouragement mate!

We were talking about films earlier and she mentioned her favourite that I had seen. She said she'd seen it 10 times, so I said "let's make it 11, come over tomorrow"

She replied "Ook will do if i manage to get enough work done "

So I relied "you better get working then"

We talked a bit more over text / snapchat. Then she sent me a snap of her saying good night. Should I focus on gradually building comfort with her tomorrow so she knows I'm not just in it for sex? Thanks for all the help guys.

She's anticipating sex more than you do. Get her relaxed, keep on holding her hand, and escalate towards the f-close.

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Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

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We texted a bit today, she took a long time to respond compared to normal. I usually take 30/40 mins minimum and she usually responds within 5 minutes. Today she took a couple of hours to reply to my first message and took about 40 minimum to respond to my messages. She snapchatted saying she couldn't find a good place to study so I replied "study at mine" while pulling a cheeky face.

About 9pm I texted:

"So you coming over tonight? "

Her : "Still got 40 pages to go, dont thing ill make it "

Me: "Oh that's a shame! Was looking forward to seeing you"

Her: "Same, but finance has not been good to me today!! Its killing me :p"

Me: "Shall we do it Friday evening, after your exam?"

Her: "That should be fine, we'll see on the day as well "

Since then she sent me 4 snapchats, 1 of her leaning on her desk saying "that point where the desk seems like a good place to sleep, and 3 more in 6 mins of a place she mentioned she went to on holiday, saying she misses "vitamin sea". Then sent "okay I'll stop now :p". I didn't reply to any of these. Wtf should I do? Seems like she's setting herself up to flake

Don't you have finals to focus on too ? Have life man...if she is ready on Friday she will be. Stop being her little procrastination buddy. I have a sense that you are making yourself too available. Patience is key.

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I'm only in my second year of university. It's hard to be patient when there's only 4 weeks left

Arranged to meet her today, I texted "let's get a coffee later when I have a break in the library"

She said "ook "

I then saw her and she said "come on let's get coffee". We went and I tried to get her to come and sit outside but she said she needed to work. I sat with her for 5 mins at her place then left. I then texted "let's have a proper 20 min break at 9pm" she replied "yes sir"

I got a message at 8:30pm saying "I think i need to go home, i really need to eat :/"

I went and saw her and she said she wanted to walk back home with her friends. There were some switches on the library wall and I asked what they do so she pressed them all and everybody's computers turned off. I then left and got some messages from her on SPAM:

8:37pm Her: "I hope they let me in the library next time hahhaha :p"

9:22pm Her: "My friend said it happened last time and they just turned them on again from where they left off so I can feel better now "

22:46pm Her: "Are you alive?? :O"

I also got a snapchat around 10pm I didn't open till later which was just a picture of her with the caption "HELLOOO ITS MEE". I didn't open nor reply to any of these SPAM / snapchat messages as I got absorbed by my work. How should I proceed? Trying my best to meet other girls and stop myself developing further feelings as I really like this girl but it's proving difficult

What I am seeing from your end are mostly the verbals. A horny girl will find time to ride your dick. Women get turned on generally through touch and skin on skin escalation. It also takes a lot more time for them to get turned on compared with healthy men who instantly get a hard on when they see a nipple slip or a wiggly ass from a girl in daisy dukes.

This girl is too comfortable with you and doesn't feel horny enough when you're around. Hint: It is so much easier to isolate women when they feel horny. What have you been doing to make this girl horny?

Please take a special note that I am asking what have you been doing (nonverbals) instead of what you have been saying (textuals and verbals).

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Here are my two essential rules on texting that will save you tons of time and money:

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oh lord, i felt a bit of sympathy until he said, theres only 4 weeks left.

Girls will fuck a guy in a day if theyre really down.(obviously less common,but it happens)

I think there was a time, where you did kind of have a chance, but

1 didnt try and kiss her anything
2, spent way too much time chasing

Was texting her today when she suddenly said:

Her : "You know that bar you mentioned, well we can go there next year now as I've decided to do my Masters at {university in same city as my internship next year}!"

I was obviously delighted to hear this. I replied:

"We're gonna go to so many concerts next year! "

Hopefully I'll see her tomorrow for a coffee. Thanks for all the advice guys, I'll keep you updated.

This is just sad man

He's just a confused kid.

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