sometimes you gotta do stuff like that. like grape said be that guy that is fun to be around so when ur around her always have a smile on ur face and just have fun no matter what your doing and shell like that cus that rubs off on her and she has fun and when u said that u think about her i wouldnt do it right away, it seems like u 2 may have something but ur on the rocks right now so give her alittle space but change ur attitude alittle bit to the fun careless happy person then when comfort builds tell her how u feel

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i wanna say it when i get my phone back tonight we known each other for 5 moths so maybe?? ill make her happy i dont compliment a lot im thinking about starting the convo off weith hey cutie cuz ive never done that befour

how many dates have u gone on?

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i 1st met her we hung out 2nd time just the 2 of us 3rd time we met at a basketball game

take her out to dinner and a movie or something then try to k close

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Sorry bro, that's not very good advice. Again, no disrespect but that's not
going to work out too well. Dinner and a movie are the SAME OLD BORING
shit.

DO SOMETHING NEW!!

Fine something fun. Here:

www.citysearch.com

That link has new events that you can do with her. Fun stuff that she's
never seen before.

Good luck :]

like she used to Message me on the computer a lot then it stoped then she used to text me then it stoped so i wanna get that shit back but i have no clue, my plan is not to talk to her today or tommrow then text her with something like " man it sucks... i couldnt really see us together" and see what she says other suggestion on what to talk about and how to hook her and make her mine please post! haha

Don't tell her that you think about her at work or anything like that because then you're going to sound like an obsessed little puppy dog. That's precisely the kind of stuff that you're trying to learn NOT to do. Honestly I've basically stopped using any PUA terminology, but that is the definition of AFC.

Your problem is that you don't have anything with this girl, but you wish you did. You want to act like you've got a relationship going or have had a few dates or something, but you haven't. You can't tell a girl that you think about her even after you've been going out, trust me, I've been there with girls that I've had sex with multiple times and it always ends poorly.

Your original post was complaining about her dancing with another guy after you guys had done nothing more than talked. Talking and flirting, even if she made it sound like she was ready to hop into bed with you, doesn't give you any kind of position in her life because it's only talk and you haven't DONE anything. So stop thinking in terms of, "Oh, well I like her and we were talking and flirting, so that means we have something!" That's not how things work. You MAY have something once you have actually DONE something with her, such as gone on something that could be considered a date, kissed or gotten physical in some manner. Until that time you're just another guy, so stop feeling like she's done you wrong or that you can tell her how you feel.

If you want to have any chance of any kind of relationship, then your first order of business is to do something with her. Like the guys said, go on some form of date, whether it be hitting up the movies, going to the mall, playing some video games or whatever you think would be fun for the two of you. Once you've done that, then you can move things ahead and develop some sexual tension and chemistry, at which time you can move on to kissing and getting physical. THEN you'll actually have some sort of position in her life where you can feel wronged if she goes off with other guys, but until then you're nobody and you need to realise that or you're never going to work to become the somebody that you can be.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

alright man cool, like idk if its good to talk to her or the same girls everyday cuz i dont wanna seem needy you know so idk if i should wate a couple of days then talk inbetween? but yea ill see whats shes up to this weekend ill say like " hey lets go see a movie?" or lets go on a date whats the best way to ask.

thanks everybody for posting u guys r the shit

People need to stop thinking that showing interest means they're needy. As long as they are happy to see you (which is completely in your control) then you aren't being needy, you are just sharing good times together and they'll be glad you're there.

Just cause you don't want to be an AFC doesn't mean you should go too far the other way and adopt a bunch of silly PUA misconceptions.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

i did something that i thinks kind of funny but not at the same time, i told this girl "sometimes i wish i never met you" she said why i said "cuz ur moods change to much for me" cuz i got mad and when im agrivated i tell why i am so i did cuz thats me so i wasnt faking it. so im pretty sure i blew it hahaha w/e va-jj's are all over