Her friends probably just Cpt. Cockblock. If she thinks she's right, prove her wrong and get the girl. But you should'nt be too phased about what this friend said. If you don't feel bugged by it, you won't act bugged by it, and ACTING bugged by it means that you are really trying hard to get this girl, which might turn her away.

Good stuff with the photos, it'l be a good reason to catch up.

And on the asking infront of friends, I disagree a little. Asking infront of friends makes it less formal, like you are asking to just hang out as friends do. If you're heaps chill about it and during a convo just say;
"Oh by the way, I've got those pics from the prom that you should check out!"

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Well today, I approached her after school to give her set of prom pictures to her. I told her to check them out, but she was pretty busy so she said she would later. She said she was going for a run and told me I should come. I really wanted to inside, but told her I was busy (soccer meeting for next year). I busted on her that she could not run 2 miles under 30 min, and that if I did end up coming, I'd just embarrass her--gotta add some negs in there


But other than that, I did not ask her to hang out last week, so I would like to plan on doing it again in a few weeks to ask her. By then I should have my license, so I could pick her up.

Would it be a good idea to ask her to go running one day after school, then have her come over swimming later? Would that be a little shady, or boring?
What do you fellas think?

hey i live in ny and im in highscool and our prom was saturday where in ny do u live

Man, she asked you to do something! So obviously she'll want to do the same thing. You should have said 'Il take a rain check on that' so you could easily later say you were keen to run. But as it is now, yeah just ask if she is still interested in proving herself. Make it out like a test or something. Give her an incentive, like a prize if she does whatever. And over for a swim afterwards? Great idea! Damn, if you had a pool I would be there!

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I disagree Difference man.
I think that you should drop the whole running idea. Might sound stupid but to me it just sounds like if you bring it back up you are clinging on to something you found to talk about and can't come up with something new.
No ideas right now but I will get back to you .

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So today after being away from her for awhile, me, my friend, her, and her other friend (a nicer one that the last) stayed after. We were flrtin throughout it. She took my pen and ke[t distracing me haha. I was makin her laugh so much with a combo of being funny and kinda stupid, but she was laughing and negger her a little. After she mentioned her and her friend were going running. She implied we should go, so I told my friend we were goin running. We ran around the track a few times and we kinda just small talked there. We both had our Ipods in so, and I tried to push her lightly to finish strong to help her out and show her I want her to succeed I guess.

After running, I told my friend to get the soccer ball to get the flirting a little higher, haha. He kicked it to me, and my prom date (lets call her sarah) ran in front of it and kicked it away and ran away laughin with a smirk. So we kicked the ball around, and a few times she would aim at me and kick it as hard as she could (she doesn't play soccer, so it wasn't out of aggression). And once she got the ball and started to run the other way and told me to come get it--I ran after her and did a little kino with a body check and got the ball nicely. She kinda grabbed me and tried to get it back, but I am the man! We were done in a little while and as we walked back, my friend said he heard sarah and her friend talk about me in the lockerroom. He didn't hear it all to tell em whether it was good or bad. He is like one of my best friends so, he would not lie about it. I felt confident today and think she had a lot of fun with me.

When i got home, Sarah's friend IMed me and told me they are going on friday and asked if we'd like to go--sounds good!

PS-I got my license today!!

Yeah, today did not go so well. We talked for a little bit, but then she had to work at some school function with her friend. Me and my friend went back to my house to swim, and I invited my hot neighbor to come over swimming who I have known my whole life, so nothin will be happenin there. Before I left for my house, the Sarah girl told me and my friend to come visit later. I said I would.

After we went swimming, my neighbor left and we went to see the two girls a little later. For about a half an hour, for some reason she was kinda cold. She was talkin with my AFC friend a little more and kept on bugging me to buy something. I mean, she was acting a little cold and gave him a little more attention than me and kept on telling me to go by tickets to buy something. I mean I am sure she doesn't like my friend, cuz hes so nice to her and I mostly neg and stuff. Tonight, it felt like the nice guy won and IDK y though. She usually always gives me positive repsonses and laughs a lot, tonight was a totally different story..

So my female neighbor friend had some ppl over, resulting in girl I want came with her friend. Her friend was the one who puts ppl down, and she started with the gay chokes to me and the girl I want chipped in playfully. We only flirted a little bit with some more soccer, and we threw some food at each other. Kinda started off rocky, and she kept texting on her phone, making me wonder who could it be, since it seems like she has low options.

Problem here, me and a few of my friends were sitting in the hottub with my female neighbor and the girl I like. My female neighbor says I should be nice to all girls, cuz nice people get the girls. And since she has seem me with other options, my female neighbor said I should pick the girl I like over my other options. I def. agree but I like to try to keep my options open to get over this oneitis cuz its very bad. My neighbor kept saying I should be nice and me and the girl I like would be cute together. This is kind of making me look bad, and she kept calling me a player cuz of my other options. I def. want the one I saw tonight, but I just hit "the wall" and do not know what to do next.

When it was just me, my friend, and my girl neighbor, she kept testing me. She kept asking me if I liked her, and that I should be really nice to her, cuz all girls like nice guys. Boy, I was thinking "yeah right" and I replied with a no that I did not like that girl. The reason for it was cuz I've been down that road, and my girl neighbor friend would wreck my chances most likely. I had fun tonight, but the gay chokes were kept being blasted on me, and I do get defensive sometimes, and being called the "player" made me seem like the bad guy. Also, she said she liked the nice guy. But, hey I was that last year wiht the girl I liked and got nowhere. Now I am trying my skills, still not getting far, but getting somewhere...

Any comments about this night???

Well I finally got my answer guys and it's not a good one. I called her a few times over the last week (twcie) and she did not answer both times or call me back. The second time I called, she did not answer, but signed on AOL for 2 minutes--she never asked me what I wanted or why i called, then went away after 2 minutes.

Two days later, my friend and Sarah's friend talked on AIM about us and the convo went like this--

My friend: Hey
Sarah's Friend: So does Mike like Sarah?
My friend: He did, but he does't anymore. Does she like him?
Sarah's Friend: No, not that way.
My friend: But it seemed like she flirted with him a lot and like that stuff?
Sarah's Friend: No, thats her personality. She was being friendly and nice with him. That's just her personality and he was misreading her signals as she was being friendly.
My friend: Oh well then now he'll know.
Sarah's Friend: Yeah...

So I got my answer right there...I am kinda down, cuz a lot of ppl said I got her and I was thinking I should be able to get her. But that convo and her not calling me back is the evidence. Thanks anyway guys!

that situation called for at least a hug kiss on cheek deal...that is totally acceptable and it would indicate to you if you could have gotten more

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Yup guys, no interest. I cut contact with her for 2 weeks and am working on seeing a few other girls. This one girl really likes me, and she isn't bad so I will try her out. I still think about Sarah somewhat, but I accepted her as a loss cause and barely think about her as much as how badly obsessed I once was. She doesn't return my calls when I called a few weeks ago, and surely does not care enough about me to even txt me once in a while, like these few girls have done. They have initiated the convo and hanging out with me more than once, and Sarah never did that. She can go back to getting 0 attention from guys and like it, cuz I am done. Thanks and I'll keep in touch.

Any more info on the post above regarding the friend convo on AOL??

Well guys, it's been a while since I talked with this girl. We did not talk much in July, but in August lately we have been talking once a week at most. My problem is down below:

One night, she got all questioney because I got a gf over the summer, who I am unsure of. She kept on saying how "we were best friends" and "it's good to have a best friend" and "that we were twins because we wore the same color clothes on the same day for a sports practice" and stuff like that. And she got mad, because I told her how can we be best friends, if we only hang out once in a while and talk outside of school maybe a few times every two weeks?? I mean, she kept on saying how best friends are good to have and that we are "bff's" but guys, we don't talk enough to be like that...

Plus, even though I've explored other girls, I still would take her and do think of her as more than a friend--although now I would not die for her like I prly would when I first posted here. Like I said things with my gf don't look horribly bad, but..

1. Why do you think she said we are bff's and that I will regret being her bff when I see her in the hall starting school on Thursday??
2. What do you guys think she meant when she said we are bff's and do you think she really means it even though we barely talk outside of school much??? And it's not enough for a typical best friend type thing??
3. How would you guys handle my sitatuon here??

Thanks!