No worries, man.

When a girl is all about you early, and gets flaky/weird like that before the first date, it usually means she has a boyfriend, or really likes someone else, too. She'll usually have a ton of guys blowing up her phone.

The guy who "lays back", and who doesn't text as much and who serves up the most dominant ask-out after just a brief exchange is the guy who's going to stand out.

Continue to date other women and do not contact her. she might hit you back. It's a sign of strength on your part.

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Arch, you really need to write a post that explains the detail to this philosophy. What does it mean to have the most dominant ask-out?What exactly has to come across in this brief exchange?

The reason I ask this is because it's not my experience (not saying because I haven't experienced it doesn't make it true). Myself and most of the guys that I know, when they meet a girl and the physical attraction is there it still doesn't make her want to go out with him unless they connect. No matter how dominant a guy is, the girl in the coffee shop, walking in the mall, or sitting in the park will not agree to a date because of a dominant ask out. Most of the time you advise something along the lines that texting is for setting up a date but you'll advise to say something like, "I'm celebrating great news at bar X at 9:00 and you're welcome to come." I'm not saying that's a bad ask out, but it's far from dominant. In fact that's not really making it clear that it's about you and her meeting.

My experience has taught me that it's the quality of the initial meet that gets the date. The girl that may not necessarily be interested will become interested and that cannot be done with a brief exchange. Before getting the number, it i more important to get her to agree to a date. The worst thing that you can do is lay back (at least in a bigger city where there is more competition) because there is always a new and interesting guy and you'll be forgotten.

I will say that being able to stand out and have a "dominant" approach is great for night/bar game but if you're taking a number or laying back, that's strike one and two.

Again, I'm not saying that you're wrong but what I'm trying to do is get a foundation of how your advice works because what you describe sounds passive in nature but you use the word dominant a lot. That's why it would be a good thing for you to do is to outline how you approach things in the beginning.

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Sounds to me like she wasn't that interested. She liked some of OP's pictures and chatted with OP and that doesn't equal she wanted to go out with him. As it reads, every mention of a date was brushed off and delayed, until she finally agreed, flaked and brushed off further invites. Whether she's single or not, has other guys or not, it just sounds like a chick not interested and who got asked out by a guy and had to brush him off. I ask myself, if she WEREN'T interested, what would she have done differently? Cant think of anything...she'd just try to avoid making plans (as she did), because OP goes to her gym...when he pushes it again and again...she'd agree and flake. Coming up to you is prob just trying to be nice and hoping you get the message. I'm not seeing signals that she WANTED to go out in the first place, it just sounds like OP pushed it. If she's interested she'd meet you, or at least NOT delay making solid plans. Bf or other guys in the picture? Could be..but that applies for any chick...if it were a bf thing and was initially open to cheating, she'd MAKE plans to meet as opposed to being sloppy. And in the public thing, if she were interested an had bf and afraid, she'd hit you up after the tv show...perfect alibi and opportunity to avoid the public.

Sorry OP, I just see YOU being the one to care about meeting up, she's laid back and that just means she's not that interested. Next time look for signals she's interested...its very easy to mistake gym talk for attraction. And many girls have stories of the guy at work or the gym or wherever asking them out and having to dodge plans so things wouldnt be awkward.