Hey All, Thanks for chiming in. Tonight has turned out to be one of the worst nights I've experienced with a women. I've never felt so bad about a situation like this. Perhaps I need to just sleep it off. part of me has rage and the other part is just like, it's not me, it's her.


So we met at the Venue, I was there already. When she showed up upon greeting we kissed on the lips hello, hugged and I gave her the hand of god to lead my way through the crowd for the bar. Dunno if you're familiar with DJ sets but that's what it was. Before the show we were drinking and, talking. Catching up if you will. She talked about her work week which I had talking about because it's boring as fuck but I listened. I told her about mine etc kino on the leg while sitting at the bar. Seemed like things were going great. Since I was there first she ordered a drink and I said, I'm just about done, how about you grab the first round and I grab the second. I wanted to see if she was invested. She said oh ok sure. Later on she kept texting on her phone and I said jeeze are you still working. She goes sorry I apologize... I'm gonna run to the bathroom. I assumed she went to go take a call or whatever.

When she got back the show started going on so we headed up to the rooftop. We were dancing and having a good time. Kino, everything. I backed off a bit too to give her some space and then came back strong as the songs intensified. So then while dancing she said I have to use the bathroom I said ok, I continued to just keep my mellow pace and dance. She got back and we were dancing again. Then like 45min later she went to the bathroom again, I thought it was too soon but whatever. She was gone for a while and I realized she never came back. After a while I went to circle around the lounge through people and I didn't see her.

I then texted her "Hey, I stepped away for a bit... where are you?" No response. So I then partied up alone and hit the dance flow with strangers. Afterwards I called her about 30 minutes later and got no response. She totally split and didn't say anything. That really pissed me off. I mean it's one thing to not be interested but if you're that cold to just leave without giving notice, that is just way to harsh in my book.

I thought about giving her a ring in the morning and just being chill, perhaps leaving a message saying " Hi, it's me... Tanner, I circled around the show for you and didn't see you. I also noticed your jacket was gone. You could have at least had the decency to tell me you weren't into it and leave. We could of done something else. Or if you just wanted to bounce you could have told me. That was the most immature thing to do and you obviously don't have respect for me. I hope you find what your looking for Biotch!

Anyway, I'm bummed out. Gonna take a break for chicks for a bit I think and just focus on the work until something solid comes around. Or at least just take it a step back and not invest so much. I mean I took this girl on a solid hike for a second date to one of my favorite trails and we had a great time. I guess some other dude won her. Oh well, she didn't deserve me. Chicks like this I view as ticking time bombs. Nothing good can come from it.

Anyway, thanks for the help guys and appreciate your feedback on if I should just leave it to bury or reach out again and discuss what happened.

Thanks

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Told you taking her to a concert is a terrible idea.

This is a funny story man. You shouldn't be bummed out, but amused. Who the fuck does shit like this?

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I'm kind of bummed out about you missing out on that cheese cake.

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I've got my share of laughs out of it already. But yeah, I am bummed about the cheesecake and other prospects as well. But this girl isn't worth my time. I've decided to not even bother reaching out to her again to ask what happened. Not worth it.

Damn that sounds harsh. To be honest, a lot of women simply don't have their shit together. Better you realise this now than later.

A kick in the ego with some pointy ass shoes.

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Word dude! Tell about it. She was saying all this shit like when we were on our second date having a good time and then it just seemed like she flipped the switch. It was CRAZYYYYYy. But yea it's all good man. To be quite honest with you she was a starfish. She wasn't good in bed and never performed any kind of floor play. She was all about "I want you inside of me". I'm cool with that however, I like to lead into things with foreplay and she was not so down for that which I thought was weird. Last time we had sex she was just holding my cock in her hand and not really doing much. I went soft in her hand. I'm like "ahhhh, well".

But rather find out sooner than later for sure. These chicks are scandals.

Word it was savage. But their were plenty of other chicks in the D.J. set to dance with which i did. It turned out to be a solo night haha.

My guess is though somewhere you fucked up. I'll say it like this...there are less nutcase chicks out there than guys who do creepy or rude shit where the chick has to run. Two things stand out to me...the testing her with drinks thing and the jeez are you still working. That depends on your tone. Sure she could be crazy but your actions during and your texting kinda makes it sound like if she told you she wasn't feeling it your reaction wouldn't be chill. I've read your other events and chicks seem to go from hot to cold quickly. Could be over gaming

Sure possibly. But at the same time, I invited her to a show and we were at the bar talking while she is texting. Like WTF! My tone was playful, nothing to controlling. I'm a pretty chill dude nonetheless. My phone was placed in my pocket when she arrived and I make clear of that. It's a time to unwind from the day to day and actually enjoy the social interaction.

I understand people are trying to do the best that they can and all but i'm not trying to princess up these chicks. Buying drinks wasn't an issue at all I just casually said hey how about you get the first round and I'll do the second. Turns out she didn't even pay for it after we finished. She said, yeah I don't think I can handle that right now. I said cool no problem and paid. But shit dude, tired of chicks trying to get free lunch. Lap dances ain't free dude!

As for the other women I've encountered and dated, it's been pretty much hot/ cold since my previous girlfriends who I was with both long term. It's all about searching for the right connection. We hit it off well, but then things just become cold. I often think I'm a bit to kind to women which was instilled at a very young age. to respect people and that kindness is a virtue passed on through childhood. Also if she wasn't feeling it I would have been glad to relocate. I'm pretty open about that but she gave me the impression that she was having a good time. The mixed emotions thing I can't mess with. I'm pretty damn transparent with people about my lifestyle and perhaps maybe she couldn't handle it.

Perhaps all that texting going on was simply a BBD she was sneaking away to text another dude, not to take a shit.

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I don't get this from this interaction. She was down, she was happy, and even if it DID come across a bit harsh, bailing without ANY indication of having an issue is completely uncalled for. If it were a case that this was their first date, sure, but they've had dates before, and have had sex before, so I can't see that this should have been the case where she took such serious offense that she left without warning.

Just take it as a learning experience. Whenever you're angry about shit either work out, have a drink, take 3 deep breaths or sleep it off. No use in wallowing in anger because it just makes you more exhausted in the long run. You shouldn't hit this girl up, she did you dirty so to hell with her.


Next time, only take people you know well to concerts and not these chicks you've only known for a few dates. Not worth it.

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What I'm saying is if a chick bails this blatantly, after having sex with you then she doesnt give a fuck. She could have been texting another guy, if a chick likes you somewhat, and its just that she likes a guy, she'll give you a bs reason to bail. If she shut the door, like that, thats a bad sign. She couldve lied and said omg, emergency I gotta go, text you later. Even if she ran to another guy that night, some kinda excuse would come from her mouth if she wanted to leave the possibility open to come back to you. For some reason, she said I dont care for even the possibility anymore. Thats a sign you were on a thin thread and it broke. More likely than things were fine and she went from liking you to disappearing disrespectfully in a split second. I hear stories like this from chicks, I liked this guy, we met, he was weird but I wanted to fuck that night. We fucked that night and he was still weird. He asked me to go out next week, figured ok, maybe he was nervous. Got there, he started being weird again, did xyz which turned me off, seemed like the type to berate me if I said I should leave so I just left without telling him. I mean, just reading how he texted her when she disappeared and planned to text her in morning, chick saying I'm not feeling it wouldve been met with some push back from him.

Im not defending her, but either she is bipolar to just ghost at a venue if the sex was even decent, or that thread broke and he missed the signs. Its kinda like the guys who say wow my gf just dumped me out of the blue...no...you hadnt been having sex for months, you were arguing for weeks and things were always boring...you missed the signs. She is a shitty chick, but if the shitty chick liked you, she wouldnt be shitty. Also, keep in mind OP fucked this chick years ago and disappeared on her. Could just be payback.

As per your last paragraph. I thought of this as well. Three years ago we went out on three dates, I then invited her to my place, made her dinner, watched a movie and had sex. The sex wasn't great on her end. She lacked foreplay and was a damn star fish then, and is a starfish now. After we had sex three years ago, the next day I made her breakfast, we left my apartment at the time for work and I never called her again. This is because I was dating another gear and things began to get serious. Plus this chick wasn't really getting me on.

Fast forward three years later today and this happened after the third date. Yea, I mean it could have been payback or just someone else in the picture and she didn't give a fuck and split. Whatever, I'm about to go blaze now. P