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You sound very bitter and angry.
Everybody does everything wrong and nobody can do anything good. Just you. You're the special one that can solve the world's problems. You're the best at everything. The narcissist.
Here was my day. The threads posted this morning are a lot different than the stuff I will be saying right now.
First of all, I will seek a licensed counselor. I have an appointment. But I will also tell you that not all counselors are good and you often wait to see someone who doesn't have the ability to help you. This forum can sometimes be better counseling than the real thing. I have been to many counselors. Some good, some bad. Some would tell me that since I'm trying to have lots of sex, I should just go do something else. Not all counselors are good and they couldn't help me with the issues that I'm having like the people on this forum might be able to do.
Also, I spent a lot of time thinking about why I might be so angry at women. I overheard one of my female tenants yelling harshly at her children and I got really angry and it reminded me of when my mother used to yell at us, shove soap in my mouth, hit me with a wooden spoon, hit me with her hand to my face. Perhaps this is when my anger started. That being said, I can see the difference between girls I'm meeting in the present that they didn't do that to me.
I realize I've been quite the narcissist, but what am I supposed to change this to? Am I supposed to be equal with these girls/women I'm meeting or am I supposed to be above them in some way? If I wasn't above them, why would they want to be with me? Isn't some sort of "conquering" or "domination" necessary?
I'm just posting everything from the day on this thread, so here are my other questions/issues.
What is vulnerability supposed to feel like? From the book "Models" by Mark Manson says that you should be vulnerable and openly honest with your emotions to attract women. What is this supposed to feel like? Am I supposed to turn into a baby? Am I supposed to be angry? Manly? What?
I also noticed while I stopped into a restaurant/bar and there were girls sitting around that my eye contact with them might say something like "I could give you ten orgasms in one night." Which is true.
I also noticed that if you truly LIKE girls, that even ugly ones can be hot. If you are going after their body and actually like them, then you don't need some supermodel looking girl to turn you on. Although, the better looking, the better, obviously.
I also notice that they test me by sitting in my view to see what I do around women. Despite the anger, I'm still shy on the surface.
I also got to thinking that I have not gotten a girl to significantly invest in me in quite some time. But I don't know if the PUA stuff is designed for that. Guys who are good at getting SNL's don't have actual investment, they just have sex for a night, and maybe another night if it was good enough to keep her coming back.
Also got to thinking that what would be the return on their investment? Besides countless orgasms as long as I'm willing, what else? By sheer biology, the only place it leads is making babies. That is not necessarily what I, or anyone else, on this forum wants from this, but those are biological facts.
A part of me tells me that when and if I get to know these girls (as a whole) better, I will like their personalities less. I don't think I am yet aware of how actually manipulative and lying they are. But is this just part of their nature as humans? Why is it that way?
(By the way, if I was in counseling, I would be saying the same things that I'm saying here, so this basically serves the same purpose. My last counselor was some guy who I would guess only has had sex with 1-2 women and is currently married with a child. He isn't a person who could help me with this.)
I also think I may have some kind of sex addiction because I really want to call a HIGH-CLASS escort right now.
I attached and modified diagrams from "The Mystery Method." Wouldn't it get OLD just having sex with lots of people? Is it even humanly possible to have as much sex as a person would want? Do you really think the girls are stupid enough to think that you want them for anything more than sex? If that's all they want, that's fine, but what if they want more, aren't you being manipulative and lying? If they don't care, that's fine and if the sex was worth it, that's fine. You only live once.
I really don't understand what a relationship is that differs from just having sex with someone. Like the 5 girls I could probably have over tomorrow with a simple text. Most of which I met on Tinder. I don't know how to form an emotional connection and I think that my emotions may be damaged to the point where this is impossible. I'm not just going to throw in the towel and say I'll be flipping houses for the rest of my life. I want to see if I can make something work. I don't really know what I want. Believe it or not, I get lots of female attention when I go out. Yesterday, I went to one of those "Hooters" type restaurants (not Hooters), and girls were looking at me despite the fact that I had spent much of my day at the county landfill and reeked. I am not making this up.