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Again, you're evaluating what's going on in his head. And on here hoping somebody can tell you what's going on in his head, when really he's the only one which begs the question why waste time here when you can ask him and find out for certain.
Are you fearful of what he may say? That it may prove your assumption to be true? What's the worst that can happen? He dumps you? Do you want to be with somebody where you place your needs subservient to theirs and play a passive aggressive game going to others to try and figure them out all the time?
No not at all. I left after the date perfectly fine and wasn't worried at all. It wasn't until I told my girlfriends about the date they said well you put your foot in your mouth and he's probably backing off because of what you said. I on the other hand didn't see it as a big deal until they said that. So I came here to get a man's perspective.
As far as my needs that'll always come first. Again, like I said I was just always raised to have a man come to you and it's best to not go after him and
be too forward. I think a lot of us women are that way. That's why we analyze and wait to see where the cards falls.
Sounds like a very passive approach.
Define "too forward", because to me this has everything to do with personal boundaries, but I'd sooner it come from you.
"If he's interested he'll know how to get into contact with you", "If he wants to see you he will", etc. We've been conditioned to take a step back and see what a man does because that will show his true intentions. During that time period if you have to reach out multiple times or ask then that's chasing him, especially if he's pulling back. Chasing him and asking to see him will be seen as too forward. Now I'm not saying I completely agree with this way of thinking, but for the most part I do.
I get that I practically told this man to back off, I texted him and he laughed and commented on the joke, and didn't reply but I feel as though if he wanted to see me he would ask.
I think men deem this behavior while us women I guess see it as a way of self-preservation? "Don't be too eager" "Men don't like it when you chase them" "Let him come to you" "Men are the aggressors and they like the chase". My favorite, "If he really wants you he'll do whatever it takes"