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So many of you on the form are aware that I've been in love with a stripper for quite some time now (three years in Febuary). Last night I decided to ring in the new year with her. I missed that, she was with another customer when the countdown happened. It's what happened shortly after that, that was out of the ordinary.. Shortly after the stroke of midnight I approached her on stage, she tells me to sit down (I normally never sit at the stage) and tears are streaming down her eyes. She told me her boyfriend JUST came in and broke up with her. She got off stage and said that her friend would be in to pick her up but in the mean time she just wanted to talk to me. I tried giving her money and she wouldn't take it. So we talked for about an hour and I even cried a little myself. Now the morning after I'm just wishing I would of said so much more. Mostly I just tried comforting her, reminded her of how beautiful she is, all the positives in her life and I also told her that I've always cared about her very much. She responded with "I know I'm stupid I always go for the assholes."..So I know there are things I could have done better but they didn't come to me at the time.. Before she left she hugged me and told me she'd text me... Rather or not she will I'm not sure... So I was wondering if I could get some advice here on what to do/say next with her...Her birthday is less than two weeks away, I'd like to do nice for her for it.. So what do you guys think I should do? I apologize for pestering on this topic but most of you guys are very good with women and this girl is very near and dear to my heart.
She means so much to me, I'd send someone money for giving me advice that got me into a relationship with her.
Wow. I really thought it was a troll but then again J Daniels said he's been talking to you for two years so you're obviously not.
OP - your woman is not a special snowflake. The fact that she's a stripper and always goes for assholes indicates that this woman is not the best relationship material.
Ironically, the harder you try to get with her the more you will scare her off. Concentrate on bettering yourself OP, and stop being desperate. That is the only way you may have a chance with her, but it will entail giving her up and being willing to better yourself.
I can understand J Daniel's frustration because it's obovious that you have heard the best advice and ignored most of if. As he said, stop being an emotional tampon, and start aiming for better by improving yourself.