Hey guys,

So theres a new girl I work with at the office and I think shes taken a liking to me. She hinted several times her type was blond blue eyes guys, which is me, flirts with me and makes sexual innuendos, and I catch her staring at me quite often.

Now Im not particularly into her. Shes pretty hot but has certain personality traits that make me think any intimacy while working together could potentially not end well. She studied in another country and has a boyfriend there thats supposed to be permanently moving to ours just to be with her, and soon.
Thats a doomed relationship for the poor bloke if you ask me but meh.
Potential drama anyway. Henceforth I dont take her very seriously. I still flirt with her, but then again I try to do that with all the girls I find attractive. But that doesnt mean Im interested.

Regardless, about a week ago she asked me why I didnt add her on facebook yet. I replied by telling her I dont do adding, maybe accepting. Then we swapped a few flirty lines about how Im high maintenance and her saying that guys usually make the first step and blah blah.
Few days later she kept hinting at that saying that she also never adds. I tell her that were just not destined to be friends in that case.
This morning I wake up to a friend request from her. I was kinda rushing to work and was busy until after lunch. I was planning on sending her a screenshot and teasing her about it a bit before confirming. But when I came back from lunch it seems that she has canceled the request.

Bear with me, I know this sounds stupid and Im not particularly interested in this situation. However Ive noticed this kind of behavior before. Dont get me wrong, Im quote on quote playing hard to get but its just for fun and my personal amusement. Im not actually trying to play games and it should be obvious Im being playful.
However in general Ive seen this situation happen within different circumstances.
Girl tries to also play the challenge, eventually gives in, then takes it back.
I think shes stressing about it which is amusing to me, but at the same time I always wondered when am I taking it too far.
I already know she caved, saw the request and screenshotted it before she canceled. So I have to options. Cut her some slack and send a request myself, since she already quote on quote lost. Or I can keep at it until she sends a request and leaves it there.

Again, I know this is incredibly stupid, but I find myself in similar situations within different contexts every now and then. Question is should you cut some slack when you see women act against their ego and pride even if they dont really go all the way, or be more relentless untill they fully commit?

personally,i wouldn't go for the girl that has a boyfriend,there are enough free available girls.
as for a girl that goes against her ego or pride,then yes,why not,if she is showing interest

She wasn't exactly acting against her pride or ego. It's just a flirtatious game if I got it right, so pride/ego might be a strong word. But she did concede to you.

That said, if you have the screenshot then you can just send her that and tease her about it a bit. Jack once mentioned how powerful uncertainty can be and that's pretty much what you have here. It's also why she sent you a request and canceled it later.
Since you had this little game going on, she put herself out there, but as it took you a 'long' time to acknowledge her, she probably convinced herself out of it.
Guys would do that all the time if canceling a sent message were a thing.

Holding your ground is generally a good thing, but only when warranted. This is not a "real" scenario where you're in the right and have to stand up for yourself.
It's just flirting, and she already conceded to you as mentioned. Cut her some slack. Otherwise you'll be stepping into the territory of overdoing it.

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