So as I said before, I just broke up with my girlfriend of 7 years about one month ago. The honest reason was because I want to date other chicks, I can't lie. So here's my two dilemmas:

1.) I asked this chick I work with to go grab a few beers with me. We're most likely gonna be hangin out this upcoming Saturday. She will be coming to one of my band's gigs. The thing about her is that I think she is the relationship type of chick, but I'm not sure. I want to take this chick home with me, but I don't want to give her the wrong idea that I'm looking to 'date' her or anything. I'm not sure if she's just looking to fuck or what, but I think it would be respectful of me to make it clear to her that I'm not looking for a relationship. How and when should I tell her?

At the point were at now, it's not even really like a 'date'. We're just hanging out for a few beers.

2.) My ex-girlfriend really isn't getting the hint that I'm really trying to get with other girls, and she still texts me and emails me and stuff. Now, I was with her for 7 years, and she's an awsome friend, but she always wants to come to my gigs and stuff. She just sent me a message today telling me that she wants to come to my gig this Saturday (where the chick from work might be). My gig's are the perfect opportunity to pick up chicks, so I kind of really don't either one of them to come, but out of the two of them, I'd rather have the chick from work come. How the hell should I handle this situation?

I'm by no means a PUA, so I'm not used to dealing with this kind of stuff (although it is getting kind of interesting).

Please help.

First of all Newman, congrats to you for having the stones to step up and say you want more. That right there is Alpha. You're gonna need to do that a lot more over the coming months and hopefully, the rest of your life.

Oh you're a musician. I can't help you. I hate fuckers with talent. LOL. Just playing.

Don't say shit brother. Once you get into that "convo" mode you're displaying interest. Put her ass on the hot plate. You take the relationship in the direction you want it to go, if she's got problems with that, it's her fucking job to come to you.

The important thing to remember here is that YOU are the commodity. As your game gets better you'll start seeing that there's a lot more hot women out there and that now, because you're pimp, you have access to them so they are no longer a thing to be sweated.

This is evil and difficult, and it'll take those Alpha stones, but I'd tell them both to come. Not ask, "Hey would you come to my show." But suggest, "You should show up." You gotta take full advantage of the ex as a pivot or social proof. You might need to be firm with her and say, "Look Karen (whatever the fuck her name is), I'm going to meet, hang out and be with other women. If you're cool with that then be cool. If that's going to be uncomfortable for you, you need to be somewhere else."

But I'd use the ex to neg your new target. Be like, "Yeah, Karen's so cute. She used to do this for me." And Karen will be getting all excited about that. Yeah, you're going to crush her later when you make the switch but she'll get over it and you've already covered your bases. So your target will see your affect on women and will be like, "WTF! Why didn't I see how sexy Newman is? I gotta have him."

Another important factor is that you don't want to fight or be rude to your ex cause that'll DLV you.

This is a tough but very doable routine if you set it up right. Last option, blow them both off and open a new set. If you get your game right the world is your oyster. I've been focusing on openers for the last two months and magically DHV stories have been popping into my routines. I'm lucky because I'm naturally funny so once I get the set rolling I'm going a mile a minute. Plus, I make friends with bartenders, doormen and bouncers everywhere. When everyone else is crying about how slow they are I'm bragging about how fucking together they are. Where was I going with this..... Oh yeah, my "in" with the club workers scores me massive social proof which in turn creates more attraction. But..... you need to think big picture. The work friend is by no means the only, or even hottest chick within your area of operation. Make sure she, and all other women, know that.

Good luck bro. And fucking change your attitude. You ARE a PUA. Maybe a new one but you ARE. Once you start down that path and as long as you're working on your attraction level as a person, you are officially a PUA. The results will come as long as you keep on the path.