Girl I met boxing. Hard to be directly hitting on her with all the guys there. So I asked her to take me clothes shopping. She did. I wasn't really sexual. Took her out for dessert after and paid. It was fun but again wasn't very sexual. Probably a big mistake. But she texted me that night. And then the night after. I think I made another mistake not taking advantage of that and turning it into something sexual but I see her twice a week so I was like whatever I'll take it slow. Another reason being she's friends with all the regulars in the class and I don't wanna ostracize myself from that circle by making a big polarizing move on her. Correct me if that thinking is flawed.

Saw her Tuesday. She said she felt bad about making me pay. I said "you helped me pick out all those clothes it's the least I could do. But sure I'd love for you to take me out to lunch." She said she's busy Wednesday so I'm like weekend it is. Didn't make solid plans cause I figure I'd do that after Thursday's class. Maybe another mistake.

After Thursday's class I doing the whole what are you doing this weekend thing. Then I said let's get lunch. She said she might be busy and she'll let me know. That didn't work out well. She saw me walking out after I changed and said hi. After some quick small talk, I get close, stare at her and say "so what's this about you wanting to take me out for lunch?" Cmon sexual tension do your job! "I should be free Monday!" YES! So I tell her I'll call her Sunday and let her know. She says awesome and gives me a hug. That worked out well.

Called her and she didn't pick up so I text her "Lunch tomorrow what time works for you?" She responds right away with the time and place. I say "Sounds good see you there." She then says "Alright. Someone else is coming too." I didn't know how and also didn't feel the need to respond so I didn't.

But did I already screw this up by taking it too slow? Maybe I should have been more clear that I wanted a date by saying "so what's this about you wanting to take me on a lunch date?". I thought I was pretty clear with my body language and getting close. How am I supposed to not get friend zoned tomorrow? Gonna be real hard to work any kino or bounce her to another location with a third person there.

Get your kino game on if you want to let them know your intent. They can't lead, so you have to.

You're already friend zoned. The fact that she didn't ask if someone else can come shows that she thinks this is a platonic relationship. Also, setting lunch dates is something friends do.

I'd tell her you can't make it if I were you.

It's probably too late with her because you set the friendly frame as opposed to the potential lover frame. More women out there, they're all over the place, go meet some of them.

I would not push for another meeting with her. Be meeting more women. She'll notice your naturally aloof vibe and may try to schedule a meeting with you. If not, who cares.

Ofcourse it's flawed. What's the point in getting a girl in a 1on1 situation if you then do nothing?
These are just excuses, and they're not even good ones. Doesn't matter how often you see her but what you do with that time. Quality > quantity.

You need to stop this playing it safe attitude you got going on. Honestly now, lunch? Aside from coffee, I really can't think of anything that screams platonic louder.
You mean the sexual tension you never bothered building?
You generally not feel need to respond when someone says they're bringing a third wheel on a date?
Already?
You screwed this after your "nothing sexual" mall escapades.
Maybe you should have been more clear that you wanted a date by saying "so what's this about you wanting to take me out for drinks?"

Maybe your body language was clear in that instance, but when you took her shopping you showed no intent. That's mixed signals at best, and the only thing lunch makes clear is "this is a business meeting".

I know this sucks to hear OP, but you've already friendzoned yourself. Also, a woman bringing a 3rd person on a "date" is a clear message that this is not a date, nor does she want it to be.

If a girl is interested in you, she doesn't fuck up her own chances by bringing a friend. They're not retarded.

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No such thing as a shit test huh? How about getting a "can we meet at noon instead of 2 cause I need to study later" text from her at 11 pm? What do you call that?

I said "I can't. Let's just do some other time. Do you have time for lunch during school?" And then she said no but she can do Saturday. So we're doing Saturday at 2 instead. I guess I'll find out first hand if lack of kino at the mall has doomed my chances.

True that.
Doesn't matter really. The setting is clear in intent. Whether she drinks lemon water or alcohol is irrelevant.

I didn't say she was never interested. She very well may have, at first.
A reschedule.
It's not about lack of kino as much as it is about lack of flirting.

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Oh my god you moron. Asking about changing time is not a shit test. She has a life. But yeah, no more of these daytime dates if it's before 8pm you're doing it wrong.

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