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11. Came to her place, had drinks , went to the same bar we met last week,
Huh?
You had drinks at her place, then went out to a bar?
This makes no fucking sense, lol.
Be congruent, man.
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We went back to her place, made out again and went to bed tired, no sex.
This is where you fucked up. Maybe you should spend less time drinking, and more time having sex?
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I forgot to bring condoms and joked about it nonchalantly. She also joked about how I already assumed that we were going to have sex
You (with a grin): It's no joke, babe. Women just can't resist.
Use shocking honesty to remove layers of insecurity, while also ramping up innuendo.
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(maybe she felt hurt or 'easy'? about that?).
I'd say it's 50/50.
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Anyway, we made out a little. more in bed, although i was a little bit rough and bit her too hard, my bad. Overall good night, we fell asleep, made out again a little in the morning in her bed before i left.
Huh? you're in her bed. Learn from your mistakes and always sexualize. Some things to say or do:
1. Throw a blanket or her shirt over a stuffed animal in the room (most girls keep these things around into their early 30's, lol).
When she asks why you did that, say with a laugh, "I don't want him to see how bad you're going to be".
Or:
You, with a grin: "Well, are you going to show me where all your sex toys are? haha."
I've literally had girls who were too uncomfortable fucking me, get themselves off in front of me with their vibrators. It's a "safe place" for them. And of course this leads to intercourse of some kind.
Or:
"What kind of porn are you into?"
You'd be amazed at what being direct, and totally honest with your dirty ass intentions will do for you. Women are smarter than men, more socially savvy, and they appreciate honesty, and a man who gets to the point more than anything.
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She even offered to pick me up.
Jesus, get a fucking car or motorcycle, man.
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I agreed, but said that my uber budget is capped so i'd need a ride back in the morning
Jesus christ, man. This is where I would not employ honesty, lol.
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(not sure if i got too demanding or entitled with this). She said she has no problem picking me up and dropping me off. We agreed, scheduled pick up.
How does it feel to have her be the man?
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13. She picked me up and we got stuff from the store including wine, then relaxed at her house watching tv while she showed some of her pictures from the past when she was in the navy. As we were drinking on the couch and her cuddling with me, she says that she is 'liking' me. She says she likes me because I am intruiguing and cute (she mentions me being intriguing more than once, that she could not figure out whats in my head, those are her words).
When a woman calls you intriguing, it means she wants to fuck your brains out. Nothing is hotter to them than mystery, challenge, and biceps, haha.
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We then went to bed and had sex (it may not have been the best since it was our first having sex with each other, a lot of adjusting positions, me being to rough biting which she did not like, etc.,).
Biting is not a good way to start. It's feminine, honestly.
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16. She seemed irritated.
Yeah, I would be too.
1. You acted weak by not having your own transportation.
2. You acted weak by saying you couldn't afford a fucking ride back from her house "can I have a ride, mommy?"
3. You were not dominant in bed, and didn't make her cum.
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she immediatelt posts a meme/gif on facebook, poking about how easing back into dating sucks (animation of a man trying to enter a jump rope session and tripping all over.)
Oh damn. She was giving you a hint because she liked you. But you were clumsy in bed.
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17. That whole day she never initiated a chat with me. At around 8pm at night I messaged how are you doing. And she just said shea fine, still at her friends place. Than asked how i am. We chatted a bit, but it seemed all small talk to be honest.
Why are you doing this? The phone is for meet ups.
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Towards the end of the chat, i asked if her bruises healed from my bites, she said no!! And said that she does not like it by the way. I nonchalantly said i respect that. She reaponds with a smiley. Then she said goodnight.
Your biting is beta behavior. That's what women do to alpha males when they're getting dominated. She gave you a hint because she likes you. Hell, that's more than a hint, that's "don't fucking bite me anymore, it's lame".
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We had a good chat, she seemed sweet to me. Then later on said goodnight sweetie. I responded sweet dreams beautiful. She responded with a kiss smiley.
Ugh.
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19. Next morning (tuesday) i said goodmorning,
Why? you're a busy man with shit to do.
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we chatted, but seemed like small talk. She started to become a little distant or distracted. After giving her space/time intervals before reaponding at night, i reengaged, she then said how it going. I said just got home and how are you. She says that she is feeling 'not so' hot because of the leftovers she ate. I said shes fine, she says 'im sure', i said i have those days too, and sent her a meme saying 'youre hot' (not sure if this is too much validation given to her). She says that i am such a sweetie. I tried to break rapport by switching topic saying that i am checking out an apartment that my sis remmended the weekend or next, she says that is great. I said i'll still need to see the place. No response.
bla bla bla bla,, man do you like to fucking talk!
Put the god damn phone down and focus on your goals.
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Any thoughts and any advice on what i could have done wrong, and what I could do better next time please?
I have decent value and social proof due to being in a band and her seeing other girls say hi and vhat with me at the bar. And generally good at humor.
She did admit though that she notices me being jittery at times, but not sure if that is the main issue.
She has two kids, divorced for years, joint custody.
Her ex bf is the second guy she's 'dated' after being single for years, per her words.
I appreciate al your thoughts in this since I need to learn to be better. My heart is torn but i know this is just a case of oneitis.
Thanks in advance.
You're neurotic, but it's fixable.
1. Focus on getting a job.
2. hit the gym.
3. Stop biting women.
4. When you are in bed with a woman, don't "ask". Lead the interaction.
Wait for her to hit you back, then invite her over and do a better job at sex.
CHAT
