Be seductive about it. Don't act as if you're taking a chance, all nerve-racked.

Do it as if you're know how badly she wants it (which she does), and you're now just granting it to her.

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I'm glad to see that I wasn't right in my first post...
This is exactly what I wanted to say.
Don't get carried away too much with her chasing you.
Not too far from now, you have to make your move.

Your penultimate message looks so good.

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Søren Aabye Kierkegaard

Cute name...

Only now I see this is a kind of a Balkans gathering here.

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At elske Een er for lidt; at elske Alle er Overfladiskhed; at kjende sig selv og elske saa mange som muligt [...] det er Nydelse, det er at leve.
Søren Aabye Kierkegaard

Yes, I'll behave like that discussion never took place Anyway after discussions with you and the last days I really start to feel that was just something to ignore and not making me back away from her like I had the tendency.

Iggy80 Yes man, balkans here , I'm starting to enjoy this forum, been here a few times before but I guess I'll do it more regularly to improve myself a little.

Yes, let us know how it is going...

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Guys I'm back after a few days of reflecting with a more clear mind on this

Maybe I disappoint you, but I thought about it and I realized that it was maybe my ego that I wanted to get her after those things happened. There are some things I don't like about this girl and I can't see myself in a LTR with her, she's not exactly what I want, she was probably also not sure if she wants me 100% so I decided to just let it go. She's a really nice girl to hang out with but I don't want to have a LTR with her (I guess she sees that as the only thing that could happen between us, don't think she's the kind of fuck buddy).

So meanwhile I went out with some other girls with whom I can have fun with without worrying about friendships and other complicated stuff.

If we'll get in a circumstance where things get hot again I will definitely go for it, but I don't want her to understand that I'm chasing her, and if I continue doing this now I'm pretty sure she'll see it as trying to get a relationship and even if it works I don't want that because when we'll break up things will be ugly

Back after months

After all that story I dropped as I felt that attraction was gone, met with her from time to time trying to ignore what happened and just feel cool about it. Probably she met other guys etc, I met also a few girls and minded my own business.

Last 2 weeks she started flirting again, and finally this weekend at some party where she asked me to go with her we kissed again and she told me that she thought about it and she wants to try this, just to take things easy.

Now my AFC mentality, insecurity and ego got me in a phase where I was thinking like... wtf I'm letting my ego for this.. she is somehow frustrated she didn't find somebody for her since her last relationship, she probably doesn't like me, she tried a few options and didn't work so she got back to me, she just likes my financial and social situation(at least one thing I'm really proud of regarding me ) and all those things were implanted in my brain...

And those things might be true... what frustrates me a lot is that I'm getting driven by those things and don't take the right actions (either leave her where I could be wrong, either ignore them and not care and just bang her and see what happens).

I was reading The Rational Male and after 2 days where I was frustrated and probably she felt my energy, making it even worse, today I had a click and I said to myself wtf I will just be happy, I will be funny with her and probably I will fuck her soon and whatever happens (she tells me that she doesn't really like me or any other reasons, I will look like shit in front of her friends because maybe she used me) I don't care. Basically doing what u guys always recommended me..stop overthinking

right now I am getting frustrated on what I wrote...how can I accept her to use me and look like shit in front of our friends.. speaking out loud so u guys can see my mentality

We met again today and I could see her happier to see me and so on.

Now my inexperience is still dragging me back, and I'm not yet as pushy as I could be, to say it in a word I'm still a little pussy and I don't know how to fuck her faster or get her really attracted to me, but I will do my best.

PS. I am really happy I had this click, for months I was thinking how to be more alpha, how to be more dominant, confident and I don't know why in my head was a image of being somehow fake cocky, trying to be something I was not, maybe even disrespecting/being misogynist. I always felt this was wrong, probably that's also why I never wanted to really apply that, but today I realized this was fucking wrong. I just need to be the same me, but more confident, not caring what really happens as long I'm doing the right things. I still need a lot of work on this but I feel it's a start I can build on.

What are your opinions guys? Both regarding that relationship and my "start" of a more alpha mentality