Hey everybody this is my first, but definetly not my last post.let me just say, i LOVE this community.

Heres my problem, my gf and i broke up over some crazy shit even though we were really compatible. Basically i had commitment issues and then ended up having to go to jail for 6 months , so i just stopped talking to her.i knew it would be hard to maintain a ldr for that long anyways.well now im over my commitment issues and i really want to be with her.we were half ass talking for awhile but she had already been seeing this other guy while i was gone so its been complicated.when we first met i was kind of a douche, didnt treat her well, and she was CRAZY for me. The other guy found out she was talking to me and acted crazy af calling her a cunt and so on and so forth...so they arent together anymore.problem is, she still hits me up almost everyday but she doesnt seem to be crazy for me anymore.we dont talk about a relationship anymore because of me and the other guy finding out about each other and all the drama that ensued.and im out of town for another month so we cant see each other.....today she posted a meme on facebook about how girls swear theyll never speak to a guy again nd then respond immediately when he texts her.i feel like it was about the other guy because hes been a complete asshole to her like i used to be.ive been polite but distant towards her ever since we stopped talking officially because i read some forums on getting an ex back and figured it would apply.

What im wondering is wether or not me being nicer has anything to do with her not being as attracted to me anymore and if i should start being a dick again or just keep being lighthearted , nice and dismissive until i come home??? Please help me out with this guys.

I read this when you posted it originally and didn't respond because it doesn't seem like you know what you want. You figured out that getting your ex back is a bad thing but at the same time asking for advice about what to do when you get home.

What is it that you're really looking for?

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No i dont hink its bad idea at all.shes a really sweet girl and i feel like shit for not appreciating her when i had her. She was really good to me and i seriously want to be With her.i just dont know if i should be playing it cool or being an asshole like i used to be because it seems like the only thing shes drawn to...im confused and dont know what to do but i feel like this other guy has the advantage right now because hes so mean to her and girls only want what they cant have.i havent made myself available and gave been distant but when i was downright a dick head she seemed to love it.i dont want to be mean though because i care about her.

OP Do you have more than one account?

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Hard to help a guy that feels bad for being a dick and not appreciating her but at the same time says that she is drawn to guys that are dicks to her.

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She was contacting because she wanted some bad boy dick. She found Sheldon instead now she's confused.

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I guess your right. I mean i havent exactly been that nice but definetly nicer than i was.and ive been eally distant but when she called me out for it caved and said i as sorry .i suppose the thing i wanted to know was if complacency would do the rick but i guess not.

I'm not advocating getting your ex back bullshit here, but if a girl you used to fuck keeps contacting you it's because she wants to revisit pound town.

Send her this message [Don't fuck it up this shit is gold].

"If you were here right now, I'd bang you like a screen door in a tornado....just sayin!"

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Since you're double posting i'll recopy my response here.

What makes you think you fixed your commitment issues?

How do you know you've fixed something unless you've been able to text it out to see if things have changed?

You want the girl because you don't currently have her, and some how you think that upon getting her you're still going to want her and upkeep this whole " i wanna be a good guy" image? Every guy that has ever gotten back with an old girl and promised to change has thought the exact same thing. I'm not saying its impossible, but this longing for her is not what you think it is.

You're probably not in the best situation and she's a source of familiarity and comfort for you and so you want her. I get that. But why else? And what have you done so far to work toward improving yourself, your situation, and/or potentially getting a new girl of higher value?

FYI.. 6 months is not an awful lot of time for a girl to wait for you. You have feel like you're worth more than that.

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