Ok, so there is a this married woman with children that I know that is just a friend now. I recently took some really good photos with her baby recently. I have read about situations where if a man takes really good photos or plays and gets along well with a married woman's children, she will sometimes becomes strongly sexually attracted to this man? I read that this is because she will start to see him as a potential father for her children (if her marriage with the current father/mate isn't going well).

Anyway, she woman started sending me a ton of text messages saying that she would teach me Japanese and that she would like me to teach her and her children English. She didn't say a word about teaching her husband. She also invited me to teach her at her house in the afternoon, which is when her husband is still at work.

She joked about how she could teach me Japanese, but that I need to be careful because she is a strict teacher and might punish me? It had a slight sexual tone when she messaged me this. She told me that she could hit me if I would like after I said it would be a lot of fun if I made any mistakes for her to she hit me. I still don't know if she knows I mean sexually. She might just be joking with me, but I will find out soon. Today is my first time meeting her, so I will just take things really slow because she is married and this is our first time meeting at her house.

I know it sounds messed up to be asking for advice on this matter, but she is really sexy and she seems into me at least a little. It would be fun to mess with her a little, but how would I go about doing that carefully?

I might not do anything with her to be honest, but has anyone on here hooked up with a married woman with or without children at her house before? What was your experience?

Are you in Japan?

Don't really understand what you're asking. Don't leave your used condoms around her place I guess?

From experience it goes just as if she wasn't married (i.e. you go for it once you see IOIs). Except you run the risk of her husband learning about it and shit breaking loose (on my side I was pretty daring, holding hands and making out in dark corners in the streets, then I got paranoid and would see any random guy as possibly the husband stalking me, but we parted before anything bad could happen).

And it's worth doing it at least once in your life, if anything only to prove yourself that doing it doesn't make of you an asshole from hair to toe.

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I have actually had a long time sex friend that was married but we ended up ending our relationship because she became too clingy.

It would be nice to have another married sex friend because it turns me on more than a non married sex friend. It is messed up to say, but it is more exciting I guess.

I have a non married sex friend now, so I might not even keep pursuing this other married woman.

Dude, it's not, and just get that idea out of your head. Adultery is happening everywhere, and probably even more so in Japan than in most other countries. What is messed up is for a woman to say "I do" on purely financial and cultural basis, just to realize that she gave her sexuality away to a guy who's not there 90% of the time, and when he is who's too much of a loser to know how to put any fire in her body.

Besides, adultery provides with some of the fundamentals of arousal: breaking the rules, risk, being forced to be apart, novelty. So it totally makes sense that it be more exciting, and that you want to do it again.

But again I'm poly, I'm French (more than 50% of French people don't have a moral issue with cheating), and I had the best relationship of my life with a married woman. So I'm biased. But that's to tell you, there's alternatives to "you will burn in hell."

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I couldn't do it. I've seriously NEVER gotten stronger IOIs than I did from this married chick(flirted hard with her before I knew, colleague told me right after we left earshot). Next day she was practically crawling out of her daughter's clothes showing me these lacy pink panties with a work related excuse for being there but I couldn't do it. I'm personally against the institution of marriage but gotta respect other people's lifestyle choices, cheating would feel like trying to convert a homosexual.