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PostPosted: Sat Oct 29, 2016 10:28 am 
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Hi guys,

I'm really afraid to open girls. I think I am just scared for rejections. How do you deal with this? How could you get the: 'I don't give a shit what people thinking of me attitude'? Some good tips would be awesome!

I am really new to this community and can't wait to improve myself.

Thanks guys


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 Post subject: Re: afraid to meet
PostPosted: Sat Oct 29, 2016 11:47 am 
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Afraid to open girls, or afraid to open really hot girls?

Get used to talking to the less-than-average girls first. Work your way up.


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PostPosted: Sat Oct 29, 2016 4:45 pm 
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PostPosted: Sun Oct 30, 2016 1:46 am 
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You have to do it. There's no other way around it. Once you do it once, do it again, and again. Eventually you won't fear it as much.

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PostPosted: Sun Oct 30, 2016 2:58 am 
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If you don't approach she won't have sex with you and if you get rejected she won't have sex with you. What's the difference, other than one giving you the chance to fuck her?


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PostPosted: Sun Oct 30, 2016 3:23 am 
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The only thing to fear is fear itself. -FDR


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 Post subject: Re: afraid to meet
PostPosted: Sun Oct 30, 2016 6:36 am 
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You have a lot of cool quotes by guys in here.

A lot of suggestions on how to think.

But does that change how you actually feel?

Can you just read a quote and have that be enough for you to "not care what people think?"

I actually have an interesting process that I'm testing. If you'd like to try it you can apply in my signature.

But other than that, I don't think there is a book or a quote you can read to handle your approach anxiety,
simply because approach anxiety is an EMOTION, and you can't cure emotion through LOGIC.

It's like trying to convince your heart to love someone or to not love someone. It's a different ball game.

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 Post subject: Re: afraid to meet
PostPosted: Mon Oct 31, 2016 1:27 am 
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just stop being afraid dammit, just stop it. starting tomorrow, please do not be afraid any more.

I love black phantom's response. i have pretty much come to the conclusion that if you're using logic in any part of pick up, you're doing it wrong. I used to plan the whole interaction, "first I will tell her this, then I will tell her that joke" it didn't work because i was using logic.

for your situation, I would start with sasha daygame's exercises that are supposed to get you socially judged. your fear is of social judgment. some of the exercises that I remember off the top of my head are:

1) ask a woman for directions, looking at her breasts the whole time
2) ask for directions, then start picking your nose
3) wear something weird. now it's halloween so it wont work, but after halloween.
4) go to Mcdonalds and be indecisive regarding what you want, keep looking at the menu and dont say anything so that a huge line builds up behind you. (I dont know if sasha invented this or someone else)
5) go up to a hot girl and say "I just wanted to let you know uh....uh....uh....uh..." keep this as long as you can.


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