Ok so I met this girl in a bar over the weekend, we got on pretty well that night. I didn't even ask for her number she handed me her phone and asked me to save my number and I did. Anyway we been texting for the last 2 days, totally forgot to reply to her message last night and she just double text me today saying : "Sorry I should have mentioned to you that im seeing someone as i don't want to lead you on"

What shall i say to that? do I just reply to her last text and ignoring this one or shall i respond and say something to the fact she is seeing someone?

She didn't forget to tell you that she was seeing someone. If she were seeing someone, then it was purposely kept from you. Since this is weird timing...it is more likely she's lost interest and that's her excuse to not pursue anything further.

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Play it cool, you dont care.

While I understand where this mentality comes from...it doesn't help the OP not get himself into this situation again. In fact, I'm willing to bet that "playing it cool" is what made him end up in this situation.

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So you saying me not replying her straight away made me fuck up the situation?

What I believe, from the little bit of information that you've provided, is that this girl was interested in you at first. You spent two days texting her without giving her anything to get her excited. The reason I believe this is true is because women don't generally ask for a guys phone number unless they are interested in him. Between those two days, she must have lost interest and her seeing someone is an excuse.

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It doesn't change the fact that he should play cool and act like he doesn't care.

I didn't say "ignore her", I said to ignore the info and act regardless.

Actually, that's not what you said. You told him, "Play it cool, you don't care." That's why I bought up the point. Playing it cool with this girl that has now made it clear that she's lost interest isn't going to do anything because that's what got him here. If he keeps going the same route of "play it cool", he doesn't do anything for himself but become an orbiter. I'd say he would be better off ignoring her because it does show he had different intentions.

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"Sorry I should have mentioned to you that im seeking a red hot licit affair as i don't want to lead you on"

Would have been better than playing it cool.

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Why? Set a fucking date within the first 3-4 text volleys and then stop texting.

You talked her out of liking you with too many texts. Guys act incredibly dopey over text, and IMHO women usually act like dominant men over text (entertain me, prove yourself to me while i sit back, etc), and have massive advantage in abundance mentality. This means they feel nothing and it is nothing to them when they blow you off.
Your response:

"Cool, I'm seeing someone too. Let's both be bad".


Texting should ALWAYS be fun and light. Don't whine, don't incessantly check up on women. Leave on a high note. Use as few words as possible to get your point across. Men win in person, where the abundance mentality of her phone and social media is lessened, so make a date and get off the phone.

Texting a lot is feminine. You can make these mistakes after a girl professes her love for you, but early on even small shit matters.

Some of the best advice I ever received on women in the texting age was this:

"When you text a woman, act like you've got three naked women in your bed."

Example 1:

her: Sorry, can't make it, Arch, my girlfriend's cat is sick, Sorry!

you: Cool, I'm good either way.


Example 2:

her: Sorry, can't make it, Arch, my girlfriend's cat is sick. Sorry!

you: I'm really sorry to hear that! I hope the cat feels better. Maybe I can bring you something to help? I've got friend who is a vet, too!


Example 3:

her: Sorry, can't make it, Arch, my girlfriend's cat is sick. Sorry!

you: whatever. I'm not buying that, and honestly you're such a flake. Come on, I know you want to hang.


Which texter has the best chance of this girl texting him later?

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She's aggressive.

So her move to claim that she's seeing someone was either a insecure defense about not wanting to feel rejected or her way of trying to provoke you into being reactive and giving a response. Does it make any sense that if you're already not showing her any attention that this is something that would need to be said? Thats something you say to a guy thats trying to get with you. Not to a guy you were making the moves on that forgot about you.

I would've replied.. "Lol awesome. So what are you doing this week? " followed up by trying to set up a meet. Its giving her the attention she's looking for, while at the same time moving things forward.

It's also possible that she's testing you to make sure you're not looking for anything serious, because she might actually be seeing someone. And or she's creating a window for deniability if she happens to get caught by the guy she's seeing after being with you. " i told him i was seeing someone.. I didn't expect that to happen.."

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Just reply saying one word....."Cool".