So lately this girl who has been interested, has been become a little colder.

I need a REALLY quick way to check if its still there (and maybe what level its on), preferably indirect. Suggestions?

No. Quit doing this to yourself. When a girl is interested, take advantage when she is interested so you can avoid this becoming colder shit. Girls get cold when you don't act.

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Thats why i need to know what level im on. Im not doing anything to myself, im asking for advice on a quick checkup so i can calculate in which way i need to step up my game.

Just gimme some suggestions. It could be useful for others too.

I just need to know if its still there (on the same level, lower or higher) so i can keep on doing what im doing the way im doing it, and i need to do it quickly and subtly. Thats all. Thanks for your advice, but it is a little demotivational although it could just be concern...

This is the kind of shit that will keep fucking you up. It's she's into you or she's not. Levels are shit that just keeps things confusing. If you want to know if she's interested, ask her over or ask her out. If she says yes, she's interested. If she says no, she's not interested. Interested girls want to see you.

You're busy protecting your ego and that's why you want to do things indirectly. Be better than that...you'll save a lot of time and frustration.

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All of those could just be friendzone indicators.
Saving alot of time and frustration would be getting a nice, effective and simple suggestion.

That's your problem. You actively look for reasons that a girl may not be into you instead of pressing forward. Take my advice or don't take my advice...doesn't hurt me either way. While you are figuring out if a girl who was once into you, I won't be experiencing that problem because I know how to handle it.

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Then tell me already!!!! Whats with the frikkin mystery shit? Either tell me or dont, just dont lecture me about it and abrag about it in my face how you would have a solution. Youre not Mr Miyagi!

If i got ONE fucking good answer, this thread would be solved! Meanwhile the trail goes cold. I said quick! Not "slow and painfully while target is getting away with status and approach method unkown"!

Why do i even have to argue about this???????? I asked a simple question, with at least a billion quick good solutions from experienced PUA's! i didnt refute the theory of general relativity!

Help before i screw up permanently!

Coworker totally flaked on our deal today from friday we agreed to on our little romantic adventure in the forest and is suddenly "busy" until thursday!!! No playful/flirty message as usual, NOTHING! just work message and then "I'm Busy."

Help! (Panic !)

MOD EDIT: Topic has been merged.

You got 3 good answers. And here's the 4th.

Grow some fucking balls. You want to know if a girl is interested? Then make a fucking move.

Instead, you're here looking for ways to tiptoe and probe your way around her interest levels, because god forbid she may think you want her.
What the fuck is wrong with men these days?

Flirt with her. Tease her. Ask her the fuck out.

The only way men end up in the friendzone is by friendzoning themselves. And this "indirect way of checking her interest" is exactly how they get there.

Now are you on this forum to hear what you want to hear or to hear what works?

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Um. What? He gave you a perfect answer within everything he said after that post. He also gave you the exact actionable steps you need to take:Doesn't get any quicker than that.

He also fully explained your primary inner game sticking point that's preventing you from knowing these answers yourself.

Oh, and you're showing lots of symptoms of entitlement. It's unattractive. Work on that, too.

Now that I've told you what you need to hear, here's something closer to what you want to hear:

The best way to gauge interest "indirectly" is through compliance testing. More on that here: http://chiefpua.com/outer-game/ (scroll down to the Compliance Ladder section)

THANK YOU.

Just so you know, the Compliance Ladder does not apply as well to your situation as it would to other situations. It works best when applied on a more micro level like while you're actually talking with her face to face after you've just cold approached her for the first time ever, allowing it to immediately establish a beneficial frame. Too late for you to take advantage of this effect here because your relationship with her surely has a pretty solid context already (I'm betting friendzone), which can only be changed through more direct methods. For your situation in particular, the best course of action will indeed be to directly ask her out.

Eh, he will come back and ask how to get out of the friendzone next. You know this one's a lost cause.

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It's already over, and your validation seeking attitude contains within it the answer as to why her, and other women will invariably go cold with you at some point.

The only advice you need.


You're thinking too much, instead of doing.

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