After my last Breakup, i have so much spare time on my hands. I think my ex has already met someone even tho i don't talk to her, but the thought of her being out with someone else while i sit at home really annoys me.

Ive had a few interactions through tinder, but online dating seems to be such a waste of time. All my friends are married with kids so they don't go out drinking at all, we havent had a night out since october. I work during the week and there are a lot of girls in work but they all have boyfriends.

I have a home gym, so i cant join a gym to meet girls. I live in a pretty small town so there is not that many social hobbies i can do to meet girls. I don't want to go to a bar alone and online dating really isnt great.

I find myself with too much free time and no way of having any interaction with girls.

No matter what answers are given to you, your brain will always spew out an excuse about why you can't do that. Don't listen to your own bullshit, bite the bullet, and do that thing you don't want to do. Always.

One of the biggest rules/lessons to follow from the PUA community is to always, always, always push yourself out of your comfort zone. If something sounds scary, do it (as long as it doesn't actually kill you). Make a habit of that.

That being said, women are literally everywhere. Free yourself from excuses and you'll see opportunity around every corner, I promise.

The average guy has trouble meeting women because he just does what all the other average guys do. Do what the average guys don't do. Go to the bars alone. Talk to the stranger you're standing next to in line. Stop a stranger in the middle of the sidewalk to pay her a sincere compliment that you just simply couldn't contain and strike up a conversation. Your options are literally endless but they're ALL scary and you won't want to do them. Do them.

Isnt all this pua stuff about showing high value, isnt being alone in a bar the definition of low value?

If you ask a crazy tall clown who fancies himself a magician and wears fuzzy hats, he might say so.

If you ask me, no. "All this PUA stuff" is simply about being more attractive to women and about seducing women. Some people mistakenly believe that the main avenue to that goal is "showing high value."

Actually BEING high value is a completely different story than trying to show high value like you're compensating for something. It's all about your mindset. A man who actually has high value has nothing to prove. He doesn't give a shit. He'll go to the bar alone if he feels like it.

Who actually feels insecure about going to a bar alone? An insecure man with low value, that's who. A charming man who's got some real confidence and charisma can walk into any bar or venue by himself and make friends with the strangers there. He's never actually alone if he doesn't want to be alone, even if he arrived alone.

This whole game with "value" is only a tiny piece of the huge puzzle that is pickup, anyway. Don't make the mistake of obsessing over it for too long.

No more excuses and sitting on your hands while stumbling over all the pickup theory you think you know - the best place to learn is the field. Try some stuff out there and come back here to talk about it rather than trying to do it the other way around.

Im not questioning you BTW, i don't buy into the this whole PUA guru stuff, all these Demonstrating higher value, and peacocking just seems like snake oil. Its clearly all comes down to confidence and law of averages. I'm newish to this site, and not sure what the general attitude here is towards picking up girls, do they follow the mystery method or Neil Strauss etc.

Thats why i asked for books on the other thread in relation to assertiveness regarding women and trying to understand why that works. That side of it, is interesting.

Ok go to the shopping mall in the day and chat to any girl you like.

Showing (pretending to be high value) and being high value are different things. Chief already went into that a little bit.

The second part of your statement is total bullshit. There are plenty of reason why you can be alone at a late night venue. Something obvious would be you're new in town and actually enjoy what the venue offers (other than potentially single women).

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Move to a different town. A place with more people and more things going on. Get new hobbies and interests.

And actually join a gym... You "CAN'T" join a gym because you have a home gym? That's the stupidest thing I've ever heard. Join a fucking gym.

If I lived on the moon, I wouldn't be thinking about game tactics or look for some places on the moon

I know that my situation would be better on a planet where there are girls. So I would consider moving to where the fish are biting.

Why do you think girls move to New York or LA to pursue their broadway/acting ambitions? It's because they need to be in the right location to have a chance because staying in their home town is less likely to happen

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This is why certain men will never do well with women.

I hate to tell you, my friend, but the problem isn’t with all the women in your world, As such, the ONLY thing we can do is change how YOU’RE approaching meeting them.

Your goal is not to look for sex or a woman but merely to look for and find all the barriers and blocks, within yourself that you have built against it.

This is you. "I'm negative, because this will just have a negative outcome anyway, so fuck it." "But if I have enough excuses people will not think I'm weak."

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This sounds like a bunch of excuses you're making for yourself for why you can't improve?

To me it sounds like you don't actually want a girl. In theory it would be nice, but the effort to get one is just too much trouble and you're already living a fairly comfortable life. You have porn, a home, and a decent job so there is no real desire for a woman. You may just get lonely from time to time and thus this post.

There are a number of guys who were out of shape, without friends, who turned their lives around and began living the life they wanted. But the difference between them and you is that they actually wanted it. They didn't come posting about their woes. They came asking " What can I do right now to make my life better? "

Theres library, cafes, bars, clubs, parks, malls, etc. etc. all in which you can walk up and approach women. Anywhere in which there are women is a good place to meet them. Approaching random women is what this forum is all about.

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