Appreciate your reading this!
So i went to this church party (not as lame as it sounds) with my one buddy last Saturday...
We partied, mingled etc. His Brothers wife introduces me to her one friend who's there with her friends (doesn't belong to the church).. I start talking to her and we hit it off pretty well. So the group decides to go to a local bar after the party and she offers to take me and my friend goes with somebody else..

We park and start making out in the parking lot, nothing major but enough to know she's into me. Go into the bar and talk. I'm talking to a few girls but this one seemed pretty different. I was actually really interested in the things she was saying and found her very interesting...

-Side story, i dated a girl for 2 years 2014-early 2016. One of my most disappointing moments in life and I to this day am regretting it because i feel bad i cheated on my girlfriend a few times. The last girl i tried getting with (named Brittany and I didn't know she knew my ex) knew my ex and eventually told my ex that "your b/f is a scum bag, etc" and hence we broke up..... (This side story has a point.....keep reading)

So talking to the girl i met at the church party at the bar, things going well... I eventually find out shes friends with this Brittany Girl..... Now I'm all like "fuck me, God damnit etc" in my head because it's only a matter of time that she talks to brittany and this girl talks shit about me too this girl. (rightfully so, i'd do the same thing, but i like to think i matured). I end up being honest and telling her the truth. She seems to understand and says "i dont care,i mean it was a long time ago.... are you still that way?". I just said i wasnt happy etc and im not proud of myself and i regret it deeply. She doesn't seem too bothered and tells me "im not even going to bring it up too britanny" and we agree to go to dinner this coming Friday.

She takes me and my buddy back to my house, (give a kiss goodbye) and im going too bed pretty happy.

So sunday i text her... and our convo goes like this

Sunday-
Me 2:04pm-Hi how are you today? I'm sorry about your lip. (i bruised her lip un-intentionally)
Her 2:45pm-Hi I'm a little hungover today. How are you? My lip looks awful!!! I also loved explaining to my mother why my lips are black.

(just small talked for few hours reminding eachother where we work etc....)

me later in the day... "I'd still like to take you out on Friday night. Does that still work for you?"
She replies 30 mintues later... "Yes we can go out friday"

I call her tuesday night to confirm dinner reservations.... and no answer around 6:00pm...

Get a text Wednesday at 11:00am "Hey sorry i missed you call yesterday. How are you?
I reply at 12:30. "it's okay figured you were busy. Was calling to see if reservations for 6:30 worked for you. I'm good just good just running errands before work at 3!"


no reply.... and now its 8pm on thursday.



So whats your opinions, do i give up and move on?
I really wanted to go out with this girl but i feel like she's not interested anymore. (She is in the medical field so i understand if shes busy...but over a day seems ridiculous not to get back to someone)
Wondering if the brittany thing eventually did bother her
.. Appreciate you guys reading this.

If she is is truly interested, she would get back to you with a date.

Do yourself a favor and delete her number so you don't drive yourself crazy. If she get's back to you, then re-save her number.

At the end the day, you have zero control, so maybe Brittany situation did cock block you, or maybe it didn't. But the fact is...She is flaking your invitation to the date and she is dodging it like crazy so it is irrelevant. But also, if a girl says she isn't bothered about it, take it with a pinch of salt because the opposite could be true.

This is one of the things I like about gaming strangers, you're a fresh slate since you don't have any mutual friends or reputation to worry about.

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Wouldn't hurt to send the text I'd suggested. After which delete the contact, and if she responds cool, if not its out of your control at that point.

I will never ever knock a church gathering where there are cute girls. As i dated a religious girl before and that was some of the best sex i had in my life. Or was it because she was a scorpio? But thats a whole other topic.
Don't feel left out OP. You do need some abundance mentality though. I too hate setting up dates and am still working on this portion of my game as before i usually just pretty much tell the girl that same day when & where i'll be and she is invited if she wants and i advise bring a friend (since i usually go drinking with my boys)

She could have not responded right away for a number of reasons but the fact that she did respond, does show some interest.

Like it was said in the first reply. You have to strike while the iron is hot. If you see that a girl is clearly interested, do a quick insta date and then number close if anything. Heck i'll do an insta date and switch between venues in one day just to develop rapport/comfort. I've learned now through loosing too many HB8+ that txting is a game killer. When she responded to your text a day later, you should have ignored it for a day and then call her with a new invitation.

Well it's currently Friday at 1:30 pm.

Get a text "Sorry it's been a crazy week. My brother actually flew home for the weekend "

I know she has a brother who lives in Florida but still , a simple text to me doesn't seem too difficult.


Do I not even respond to this text?

Appreciate it guys.

I take this text as a setup for a flake. Most people know when family's coming to visit and they just don't pop up. This is likely her excuse to get out of the date.

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N2 makes a simple great point here that should be added to rcs guide. If you're texting logistics don't squeeze it in after a long text about other shit. Easy to miss. Someone's notifications on alot of phones just show the first few words.. So if a chick is busy and glances at phone and sees some shit like "lol yeah I go to that gym too. Its..." she figures this is just chit chat and doesn't check the rest unless she's free. Meanwhile she missed the end of the message where you're asking if Friday still works.

Planning on not responding.


Do I simply move on?

Do I text her in 4-5 days?

"Cool have fun."

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i wouldnt even respond. wait it out and see if she reaches out. this is the second time she flakes and never offers a follow up or make up date. i would say she's not interested

Move along

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Personally, I'd respond (not immediately) as if nothing happened to pickup where we'd left off and secure a date time and place.

I know some guys on here might take umbrage with that, under the belief that you're somehow lowering yourself. Women are stimulus-bombarded these days, and you can't exactly fault her if she's not completely ga ga over you from a single interaction. I'm not sure about the dude reticent about responding to her because to me that tells me he's already invested and this is more about him than her, or anything she's doing.

Think of it another way. If you're a man of abundance would you really care that she didn't respond, only to do so later? You'd have other options, or maybe not other options you simply wouldn't get hung up over it as you have much more important things going on in your life than worrying if she'll reply.

That's my take, i just don't see the issue in giving it one more shot now that she's reached-out in some capacity. Its only needy if you've put so much on it already, which again is more a reflection of where you're at.