Hey Guys,

i have been talking to this girl for a month now (we have not yet met as she is in a different state), she knows my intention that i would like to explore the potential with her for something long-term after meeting her ofcourse. But she had gone through a rough recent engagement break up and told me that she thought she was ready to jump into something but is not and doesn't want to rush into anything yet and wants to focus on her professional life and herself. So we agreed to slow things down as i didn't want to jump into anything immediate as well as we have not met yet (and i cant emotionally invest in her at this stage) but we connect great when we talk, snapchat etc...

All was going well until she asked me the dreaded question:

"If we don't end up liking each other that way, can we still remain friends?"

Now in my mind, normally when this question is asked, i feel like the girl has already made up her mind...

So i responded to her that lets worry about that WHEN and IF we get there and lets not make things awkward right now. Her response was that she has talked to guys and for whatever reasons things didn't workout she wished they still remained friends...i just chose to stick with my answer....

Any feedback, comments, critique, guidance, advice would be appreciated.

A

Unless you're going to be tennis buddies (or.. in all seriousness.. share some kind of hobbies which you can be involved with together). . . that sounds like a pointless, bullshit "friendship" where she just wants to keep her options open and have a shoulder to cry on when the love interest on top of her list rejects her or hurts her somehow. I was that guy for one girl a LONG time ago. The bullshit "semi-romantic" friendship lasted several years. Ironically, it also started long distance! Never again. I'm going to guess you probably don't have any hobbies on common? So forget about her.

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being 'friends' after the rship isn't literal

It means to say goodbye forever on a positive amicable basis.

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You are already over investing. Either meet, or move on to a real live girl.

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You haven't even met her yet and you are pushing the idea of relationship with someone who isn't even ready for that.

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I never understand why guys lay all their cards on the table before you even consider if the girl is a potential long term mate. That shit only works with products that you buy on amazon where you read the reviews and come to a conclusion and want to buy it because most of the people deemed it a well made made product.



You should be choosy and drop that shit when it comes to women. If guys keep their mouth shut, they can easily be dating a woman for a couple of months before a woman brings any talk of labeling.

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Wtf are you talking to a woman in a different state? Long distance relationships suck. Long distance friendships cause that's what this is.. Suck more. Find someone local.

Huge red flags in that it's online, long distance, and you told her you want a relationship.

Bad.

1. Open door.
2. Step outside.
3. Approach women.
4. Don't mention a relationship even if she's on her knees.

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