I have a problem that I don't ever see anyone talk about. One, I'm awful with women. I have tried to improve that with very little success. Yet, when I finally manage to get a girl somewhat interested girls call me a player and shut down on me. I realize I have the looks of a guy that people think get a lot of women but I don't. I haven't had sex in over a year and to top it off I suffer from performance anxiety so I struggle with erections. I was hitting it off with a girl at a pool party yesterday. She was wrapping her legs around me in the pool to the point our crotches would come together. I thought everything was going great. Then all of the sudden she asked if I was a player and I said no and she didn't believe me and completely shut down on me. She started asking people (that don't even know me who didn't give an answer) and that was that. I don't get it. Even when I FINALLY do good with a girl it somehow goes south.

My question is; How can you not be deemed a player? Or show that you're not?

Unique? Naw.

Next time, don't deny it, go with it instead. Either laugh it off, with "Sure, and your new to the harem, but on probation."

Or a deeper approach, “When I’m single I meet lots of girls because I want to increase the chances of meeting a good one, but when I am with a girl I like I’m very good to her, treat her like a princess and stay faithful.”

_________________
They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

Thanks for the fast response. I guess I will have to try that next time!

How attractive are these girls?

See it works like this, women can’t help themselves, they need to be with desirable guys who are wanted and sexually attractive to other women.

So if the THINK your a player, even if you are not......

_________________
They call me the cat whisperer, cause I know exactly what the pussy needs.

So you're bad but worry about how to not be perceived as good?

Yep. Legit question.

_________________
I know my place. It's me on top of the world.

My in depth texting & dating guide.
There's no such thing as shit-tests.
How to keep a girl.

Idk the girl was perhaps a 7. Bad? What do you mean? I'm a good guy but for some reason women think I'm a player. I'm trying to figure out why that is. I don't like the fact I'm deemed as a player when I'm not.

Whatever is wrong with being perceived as a player?

You're an attractive guy and women like you. Oh god, please no. Anything but that.

_________________
I know my place. It's me on top of the world.

My in depth texting & dating guide.
There's no such thing as shit-tests.
How to keep a girl.

I like threads like these because people like Galist tend to skip over them that looks are one of many things that helps you score with ladies

_________________
USER HAS BEEN BANNED FOR REPEATEDLY IGNORING MOD WARNINGS AND MULTIPLE RULE VIOLATIONS

Being an active member in this community you're going to get that question a lot, I'm sure we all have. There is a few ways to go about this, like just telling her you are as was said above, but what I find works best is when you're presented with that question say something like, "I'm not but if you think I could be I'll take it as a compliment". In my experience this will neutralize the question, make her laugh, and psychologically it will hit a gear in her brain that makes her think she's already trying to flatter you and win you over, so she's not going to quit now.

_________________
Any feedback is appreciated and don't be afraid to PM me!