Ok, so the verdict is out. Be more direct. And no, I haven't said anything sexual yet. Yeah I want to fuck her, but I didn't want to ruin my chances since I always hear girls bitch about "guys not being gentlemen/blah blah"

So if I hear from her, then keep going.

And if I don't hear from her for a few days...? Hit her up, be more direct/sexual, etc?

That is complete nonsense. They only say that about creepy guys who are direct, lol. Hot women love honest men who go for what they want.

I once asked a girl on a first date to come watch a movie with me after our drinks. She asked what we would do there. I said I probably wouldn't even turn the TV on, and that I'd move on her fast. She laughed for a long time at my honesty, but her eyes were wide. After her drink she went home with me.


I would not be more sexual via text at this point. Just arrange a meet up and escalate there. But make sure the meet up is not dinner or anything romantic/blown out of proportion. A drink at 9 pm or later sends a subtle message.

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Ok, so I went for it. Thanks for the advice, guys.

Here's the conversation so far. She's got read receipts on and probably has text notifications pop up on her lock screen so she doesn't have to "read" them to see them.

Me: (her name), what's going on?
Her: I'm at Target (replied instantly)
Me: What are you buying?
Her: I'm not the one shopping (replied instantly)
Me: Haha alright.
Let's go out when I get back from my trip. You're cute, I'm interested. Nothing crazy, just laid-back.

This is from today. She hasn't responded or read it yet. I'm just guessing this one is a no.

I know for sure she was into me. Always giggling and smiling at me, giving me compliments on my clothes and what not when we worked together.

Attraction isn't a permanent thing. It's something that's felt in the moment. Between the time you worked with her and now, she's probably met quite a few guys she has been attracted to and because you only communicated through text then that same attraction for you was probably not there anymore.

You put the ball in her court (although I hate that you said the words "I'm interested"), so let her respond. If she doesn't...move on.

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Jesus christ, dude. I'm going to address the bold in order:

1. "What's going on?" is shitty wording. It can mean many things, even complicated things. It's almost infers meta, or a worry about the situation. It sounds borderline needy. Try, "hey, what's up?" (yes, overused, but also neutral and chill). "Hey, how's it going?" etc.

2. "You're cute, I'm interested". What the fuck, man? She knows you think she's cute, she has been spoiled and pampered by guys calling her that her entire life. Good work sounding JUST LIKE all the other dudes! She also knows you're interested. The fact you texted her conveys this quite well. Respect her intelligence and stop putting her on a pedestal, which bores the fuck out of women. The "I'm interested" line also showed over-investment.

I used to hang out with a really good looking guy in the bars. It was always a competition for hot 20-somethings. He had a few less years than me, so things were tilted in his favor. He'd say this kind of "you're cute" shit to women, buy them elaborate dinners, etc and they'd bail after the first date. I'd go on a date with them a couple weeks later, never once toss them a compliment, make them pay for their own drinks, and fuck them that night.

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I see. How would I put the ball in my court? I mean in general, not for her. If the guy is always the one doing the asking, don't they more or less hold the power since we are going off their yes/no?

She responded, by the way "Alright, I'll think about it. Have fun (emoji)".

Before I answer your question...delete everything connected to that girl. You can't afford to try anymore with her without you looking bad. If she contacts you, work with her from there.

To have the ball in your court, you have to show your intent and be ready to walk away if it doesn't seem like things aren't working out because you know that the next girl is just around the corner. That's abundance thinking. If you think like that, you aren't giving one girl too much value and therefore not giving up yours.

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Do not contact her until she contacts you. Let her wonder.

Date other women.

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And what's funny is this crucial behavior actually works many times to get the girl chasing.

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