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Comes across as labile (emotionally unstable).
When I was younger I had a penchant for these girls as typically they run push/pull with wanting to hang-out/pushing away behaviors and if you aren't careful u'll get hooked fast.
She's exhibiting some pretty strong red flags, and it seems in spite of it you still want her attention. I strongly caution you against proceeding with her as she lacks emotional maturity and she can turn into a VERY strong headwind in your life, sapping you of your energy.
I am leary of pathologizing her behavior. I don't see anything looking like ADHD, or psychosis in her texts.
There's likely some pretty unhealthy core beliefs, its possible she's an Avoidant personality (may have some characteristics consistent with Borderline, but I am in no position to diagnose. Still, I'd heed the signs and cut all contact while its early before you allow yourself to get sucked in.
wow, i just looked up a lot of information on borderline personality disorder, i am 99.9% sure she has this...
now i cant help but think of a way to tell this to her/get her tested/on medications
whats wrong with me
is this "Co dependency" ?
What's wrong with you? Figure out why it is you're attracted to such women, if in fact this is a pattern. If not, then chalk it up as an anomaly and move on.
Co-dependency essentially is trying to control another person's behavior to reduce one's own anxiety, or excessive emotional and psychology reliance on one's partner (or other). It typically happens through having very poor boundaries, and an insecure style of attachment where you fuse to partners (becoming 'non-differentiated'). Pleaser types are an example often shelving their own needs, over-tending to others to fulfill the misconstrued idea/belief that they are only worthy human beings insofar as others demonstrate love towards them (whatever that looks like).
CHAT
