There is a Japanese woman that I teach English to on Sundays and I always keep it casual, but never hit on her or anything. Just today, we were talking about how there is a particular village I want to visit someday, but I would have to rent a car to get there. She randomly mentioned "If I was single, I would drive you there. I can't though because my husband." The reason it was strange was because I wasn't hinting that she give me a ride, I was just talking with her about how I would get there. I know she might be trying to shit test me or see if I would hit on a married woman or maybe she wants to mention she is married in case I hit on her? I never ever hit on her nor have I given her any signs of interest beyond being her teacher...so wtf is the point of her mentioning something like this out of the blue? Was she hitting on me in a strange way or what?

She mentioned that her husband has "a sixth sense" as retarded as that sounds. I just said that I have a sixth sense too and that I can see ghosts to make her laugh. She seems to genuinely like me, but she can't seem to relay that to me without being self-conscious...probably why her husband always comes into the picture. She has also complained about him to me before, which I heard is a sign of attraction. I don't plan to try to hook up with this woman. I'm just simply trying to understand her better because she confuses the hell out of me.

Don't read too far into it. She would show you around is basically all she said, however she can't because her husband would be jealous of her hanging out with a guy.

Well, I realize that, but if she knows her husband is a jealous guy...why bring it up at all? Why bring up or hint that she likes me and then follow it up with a statement basically saying it is impossible? I'm not interested, but I would really like to try to understand a woman's mind a little better.

She brought it up to contextualize and justify why she can't go with you even though she is interested in that trip. It didn't seem to me she explicitly said anything to lead you on or imply anything romantic. It is just social savy if she says she'd love to drive you out there without disqualifying herself the natural inclination to work with her would be to invite her. To avoid being invited she disqualified herself and justified it to you. It's an IOI but nothing explicit or anything, she's expressing support for you, I think you might be reading into it romanticly a little too much.

I actually didn't see it as a romantic IOI. I saw it more as a shit test. I guess another teacher about five years back proposed sex with her and it pissed her off and she changed teachers. She might like me a little, but that sure felt like a shit test. The test being whether or not I will try to propose something as well...yet she keeps taking lessons with me and seems to have a great time...

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Yes, I remember reading this post before.

So she is either shit testing me, flirting just to flirt (no intention behind it) or sending out a flirtatious challenge...with intention?

I doubt she is into me enough to cheat on her husband with me.

PS This is a completely different married woman to the one I posted about before.

She was just saying she would like to hang out and see those villages with you, but even though she would like to she can't because she has an obligation not to. There is no top secret language here that you are missing if you want to escalate you can try but she isn't explicitly flirting with that idea in any way. You can more or less take it as a compliment that she enjoys your company.

Lol.....what on earth does shit test mean in this instance? She's testing that you'd jump on some weird bait? What on earth could you say either way? As pump says its just her being socially savvy. She didnt even say "I would go WITH you"...she said "I would drive you there." Sounds just like she was making conversation imo

Yes, that makes sense. She does really enjoy my company. I will definitely keep teaching her English each Sunday and see if she mentions more things like this or maybe starts to flirt. She has touched me in the past. I hurt my back about 6 months ago and I was explaining where on my back it was injured and she actually touched my back and rubbed it for a couple moments and said are you ok? I know this could be nothing but her just being concerned for my well-being.

She's not going to cheat on her husband with you. Not this girl. Not with you at least.

The comment was her being friendly and making an effort to continue on the conversation. I'd suggest you stop reading into things so deeply like that as girls don't like it lol it's creepy.

I ran into the same situation a while back. German girl. Kept complaining about her husband and that he is not rough enough in bed. Talked about her sexual fantasy. And wanted to see me when she got back in town. I just friendzoned her. In my opinion, married women are a no go. Lot of LMR bc they are married. ALso lot of drama. There are countless other hot chicks that you will run into almost everyday.

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Doesn't sound nearly like the same situation.

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You said you don't want to hook up with her. Forgetting for a minute what she has said to you, do you find her attractive?

I find her attractive, but I'm only interested in keeping my distance from her. I have already been hooking up regularly with another married woman. I am going to focus on meeting a single lady.