Let me introduce myself first. I have been doing pickup for about 5 months now.

I have seen immense changes in my confidence and the way I carry myself. I'm able to approach 15-20 girls when I got out. Of course, like anyone who's been in pickup, I do get rejected a lot , but I've been able to have some amazing conversations with a good amount of girls :I was able to have interesting interactions, make them laugh, never run out of things to say, and get their numbers. It seems like I have gone past the approach anxiety.

The one problem that really pisses me off: Flaking.

This may sound pitiful, but out of the 13 numbers I have gotten this past weeks, I was only able to go on a date with one. Yes, only one.

I know I'm still a beginner at this, that even though my confidence, conversations with girls and self image have greatly improved I can still do better.

I know that flaking is normal, but is it really normal that out of 13 numbers I only got one date?

The thing is I really don't know what I'm doing wrong. One time I was talking to this chick for 20 minutes: we were having fun, she seemed really interested in knowing me, she constantly engaged herself in the conversation, at one point of the interaction she told me she thought I was good-looking. When I asked for her number she seemed pretty interested in seeing me again. But when I texted her the next day, it's like as if she became cold and uninterested, as if all the attraction she initially felt for me was gone. What the hell did I do wrong?

This wasn't even the first time a scenario like this happened to me. Many times have I approached girls that were interested in me just to be flaked on when I text them.

Right now I'm confused and frustrated. If out of the 13 girls i had gone on a date with at least 4 or 3 I wouldn't be complaining.

So I wanted to know what do you guys think I should do in my conversations with girls to reduce the chance of her flaking on me? Has anyone gone through the same thing as me? Also I would like to know many girls out on twenty flake on you guys on average, that would really help me

I have to agree with what you said about the correlation between time spent and flake. I used to follow Eben Pagans crap advice about just get the number as quick as possible and leave. I found that - that didn't work too well as their wasn't much of a connection there and I guess the other person knew me as much as she knew a stranger walking down the street. I got disheartened with the lack of call backs when I would use that approach. Now I find that most do answer their phone / reply but only because I get the number when I think theirs a good chance they will communicate. Less numbers now but better response rate.

I don't subscribe to the theory of get the number and run - I think the person has to have time to get to like you and remember something about you. That takes time - probably isn't done in 5 minutes.