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Most hoes have an Avoidant Attachment style by default, so they're repulsed by guys trying to 'connect' and get too close to them. They aren't out for connection as they've learned its associated with a lot of pain and rejection through their early years growing up as young girls. That's why if you're putting-out relationship vibes or ANY behavior that can easily be construed (or misconstrued) as clingy, they'll run the other way. Fine if you're seeking a relationship, but not so much if you're looking for a surface relationship that's only physical.
There's no such thing as a "good girl" or "bad girl", nor do women seek-out assholes and douches per se. Rather the "bad girl" generally has an insecure attachment style (almost always Avoidant, never Anxious), whereas the Secure types are more discerning and far fewer in the dating pool as they tend to have healthier relationships with men and remain in them much longer.
You guys, like many others, are confused into thinking they like men who are "mean" to them. It is far more likely they're seeking out Avoidant males for sexual encounters because the (psychological) distance they need will be guaranteed, thereby minimizing risk of it turning into anything beyond a sexual relationship. In addition, when these women get involved with Anxious type males, this type of guy serves a purpose in reaffirming her (often misguided) belief that other people are trying to control her/not respect her 'autonomy'.
Some things to watch out for in an Avoidant's language will be language such as "I am a free spirit", "I am scared to be in a relationship because I always lose myself/my autonomy", "guys are just too clingy" etc... These alone aren't necessarily proof that she's Avoidant, but they are pretty strong cues.
THis is good shit, where can I go or what can I read to learn how to turn this to my advantage?