So there is a bartender that I really like I saw her once in a local bar new my home she's in my same age and I discoverd we studied together in same high school..

Anyway attempting to pick up hired guns is much harder do you have tips for that especially bartenders? because u know probably a lot of people tried and trying so the element of surprise is pretty dead here.

Super alpha. Don't be the "stare guy" who doesn't have the balls to do anything. I'm currently avoiding my favorite watering hole because i fucked 3 of the bartenders and rejected two.

Observe who the "head witch" is at a large establishment, and once you fuck her the rest will follow.

Bartenders are merciless towards the guys who are too wimpy to ask them out directly. i tend to ask what they're doing after their shift. Some don't like that, but many do, and will slide a drink across the bar next to your seat after their shift is over.

They work in an environment that features many, many clueless dudes. Stand out by being firm and direct, with charming sarcasm.

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Pretty much this.

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Last year when I was a huge AFC, I pulled a bartender purely by accident. Told her that I felt unusual for a 22 year old. Didn't like to get hyper, instead liked calm and relaxation. She dug that, and seriously complimented me for it. Later she asked me to send a pic, so she could have me on her phone. I sent her one of me naked with a top hat covering my dick. She was impressed and complimented me. I asked her if she was into mens' butts, if so I could send her a pic of that. She laughed and said nah. Next morning I woke up to a fully naked shot of her on my phone. I almost pissed myself from being surprised since I was a total AFC who was going through this process completely in the dark. I didn't reply right away, and an hour later she sent me a text asking if I felt creeped out by her forwardness. She said she just wanted to make me happy. I thought about what to do, Then I sent her a text saying no problem, and then detailed what I'd like to do to her, sexually. She really liked that. The next day she sent me a new pic, and I sent her a dick pic, saying that I got red hair like an irish boy. She said I was crazy. She asked for another sex story. I wasn't in the correct mood, so I hastily wrote her an undetailed one. She got a little angry and said I fucked her vibe up. I told her that I just wasn't in the right mood at the moment. She said she understood, and forgave me. The next day I asked for a spread vagina pic, then took my time and really hit her with a good story. She replied with orgasmic sounds.

At that point I had a change of heart, I felt very creeped out. I was surprised at the powers that I appeared to have. Being that I was 22 and she like 35, I felt uncomfortable. So I just cut all contact and blocked her on my phone. Couldn't take it anymore. I seriously thought I was becoming a pervert and there was something wrong with me. That was the AFC mentality.

Not a big loss anyway. Average looker, and lived 10 hours away. Hope you enjoyed the story, lol.

Is it irretrievable if you end up in that category of guys they trash?

No.

If you end up in that category, there are repair methods:

1. Get ripped at the gym and dress in a way that shows it off. If you have a high level of fitness, you are never truly "out" with girls. It's that fucking simple. There are so many out of shape puds that it gives you a hilariously extreme advantage. Girls want a bull elk. Toned/big arms and shoulders have the same effect on women that cleavage has on us. You can get away with more mistakes.

2. Show up with an attractive woman.

3. Buy the bar.

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