Hey, I just took another look at your profile. I see you made some changes. Good that you took off a couple of those photos and cut the friend thing out.

I agree with everyone else who says you need some nice, clear photos of you. Honestly, if you have some extra cash, it would be worth it to get some good head shots. You can also use those photos for other things. It's a good investment. But if you don't have that money, get a friend with a decent camera to take a couple nice shots of you looking sharp.

Also, the whole Jane Seymour thing has got to go. The joke goes on for waaay too long, it's not THAT funny and yeah, if you don't want 50+ year old women, then trash it. I still don't have any clue what kind of person you are from this profile. What are your interests/passions/goals/tastes in music etc. It's good to balance some funny with some genuine. You also don't have to make it super long, but give these girls a bit more so they have points of connection.

Also, like I said before, don't start with negatives like "Do not message me if..." "without further ado, my dealbreakers..." I get that this is meant to be some entrance into a joke that only you and a few other people find funny... but it just straight up sounds negative and isn't working.

Another thing..this: [quote][/quote]We're all using this site because it theoretically, helps make meeting people a little more efficient. You have things your looking for (deal breakers) and hopefully, so does the man you're looking for. Without further ado, my deal breakers."

Why are you starting off with a general assumption of why people are using the site? People use these sites for all kinds of reasons. It's not relevant. Start out with an introduction to yourself, not a commentary on online dating motivations.

If I were a girl and I thought you were cute, I would have no idea what to say to you or how to strike up an online conversation unless I happened to be a huge Jayne Seymour fan. Fix it bro. Sorry if this sounds harsh. You're on your way but you can do a lot better.

TY. TY. TY.

No, I've been thinking alot about this and I think 90% of it has to go. I really only think I can save one or two pictures, and most of my interests section. Right now I'm trying to get a photographer to help me get 2 or 3 decent pictures. So I'm believing basically everything you're saying. I just can't believe how hard it is for me to get a few quality photos. You wouldn't have a solution for this would you?

Also, do you have any idea how many selfies guys can get away with in their profile? I know they'r not ideal but is it like 1 selfie or half selfies?

It's funny though. I am getting, what I deem to be a lot of messages from women I'm not attracted to. There's been about 3 messages a day from unattractive women all saying something like "Hi" in their greeting.

Not a good thing.

It might be because of the Jane Seymour thing. The one part of that, which was kinda funny was..."3) You starred in the most culturally important television show of the 90's; Dr. Quinn, Medicine Woman."

But again, a reference that a lot of girls who are under 48 might not get. I'm exaggerating a bit, but if you want to keep something from that Jane Seymour joke, keep #3.

Also, it seems like you're an active, outdoorsy and fun loving guy. I don't really get any of that from your "About" part or the first date thing. Change the Starbucks thing too. Do you really wanna go to Starbucks on your first date? Is that supposed to be a joke? Either way, change it.

You could probably get away with 1-2 selfies, if they're decent photos of you. Also, you don't necessarily need a professional photographer, but someone with a good idea of light and space to take your photo can help. If you don't have any professional lighting set up, best to take a photo outside, when it's not too, too bright out, and have a nice, clean not too distracting background. I'm a photographer so I can give you a few tips, but it might not make sense unless you know about photography...but, if you have access or know someone who has access to a DSLR or a camera with aperture functions, make sure the F stop (aperture) is set to something like F/4 or F/2.8. This makes the subject (you) clear and sharp and the background sort of blurry and out of focus, so it brings the attention to you. Also wear something, nice that doesn't have any distracting patterns on it.

Or just google how to take a good headshot or portrait. You can find resources that can help you do it with Iphones too.

Good luck! Keep me posted.

Dragula has some good threads on Online dating pictures with examples.

Your profile is the type that will find you 1 match out of a million women. Your sense of humor is most likely to alienate most women, even those that would be a match for you. The whole thing needs to be scraped imo

A'right, first off, ditch the pic with the girl. For 3 reasons, it says nothing about who you are, the neon lights in the background are annoying, and having pictures with someone else other than you on dating sites is an instant no for the majority of people, especially if the other person is of the opposite sex.

The bear suit, skiing, and tree pics are fine. The first conveys playfulness, the second says you like winter sports and the 3rd is letting people know you're adventurous.
But none of them should be your profile spearhead. For that, you need a casual yet representative one. Something that's more close-up where your dress style shines through and your face is more visible.

Secondly, the Jane Seymour thing. If there's a great way to slaughter a joke, that's to reference it about 8 times in 1 minute. It's just bad, and I get references. Imagine how someone who doesn't will find them.
Most people will also find it very annoying when a bio starts with "Message me if, don't message me if". It conveys a sense of invalid self-entitlement.

You want to convey your personality. You want people to feel a positive emotion reading your profile. You don't want to come across as arrogant, you want to come across as fun, friendly, unthreatning yet interesting.

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