Hey guys,

So I hooked up with a coworker a while back at a company partey. Then it happened again at another party and... well... yeah
Since we work together we talk and see eachother every day, and I flirted with her ever since she started working here. But the hookups or physical intimacy only happened outside work. Started out drunk, but once we were sober.

Regardless, she has a boyfriend. I knew that from the beginning but didn't really care much for it, since I just gamed her like he didn't existed (thanks to what ive been reading on here, especially RC's texting guide). However in recent days she started telling me about him. Well, in fact she really opened up about her life in general. She's a bit of an introvert/conservative on the surface, but highly sexual if you get here there.

So the thing is I told her from the beginning to not have any expectations of me. I'm not at a point in my life where I would want a relationship and even if I did I would never be able to seriously date someone I work with everyday. It's just not who I am. I made that crystal clear from the get go.

What's concerning me is that she's becoming a bit ... too warm I guess recently. Could she be catching feelings for me or is it a normal occurance because she's starting to trust me for whatever reason?
Like today she told me about what she doesn't like in her boyfriend, how he's a "mama's boy", how she has to "babysit" him whenever they go someone with new people and how he cheated on her once before (before we hooked up). And now she thinks he's doing it again.

I don't know man... we have a good thing going, feelings will just fuck it up. As far as her being a coworker it doesn't really matter. We're not on the same team or anything, there's nothing she can do to affect my working environment and she's also not the batchit crazy type, so that's not the issue at hand.

What do you guys think?

Not sure what you're asking here... Just for a situation assessment?

I think you're correct in that she's getting some feelings for you.

To me, It looks like she's seeing you as a 'trade up' option for her boyfriend and is casually floating some subtle queues to you... You can be oblivious to them and see where it goes - she may crank up the intensity or full-on confront you about it eventually.

Is the only reason you don't want to date her because you work with her? I've done that whole scene. It's a sloppy mess, so I agree... However you're already fucking her - you've already made the mess... Keep that in mind.

No need to overtly remind her that you want to keep things casual unless she actually asks, IMO. You've already conveyed it.

Keep the 'just having fun' attitude and play the field, brother.

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Yes I was asking for an assessment.

And yeah working together is my biggest hinder. Other than that our personalities are not very compatible either. She tends to take things a little too personal while I tend to really not take myself too seriously and joke around all the time. She's more of an introvert and conservative, while I'm a bit more extroverted.
Point is our we differ in just the right way to spark intense attraction and lust, but a real relationship would probably be a catastrophe.

I never overtly reminded her about keeping it casual, sorry if my writing portrayed such a thing. I only told her that at the start of things, and then threw indirect ques whenever necessary.

I am also seeing another girl, and she knows about it too. Despite all that, I'm still left with her catching feelings.


@Heywood, that would be me.