Hey, how do you maintain "friends with benefits" frame?

I'm seeing this chick on college for a while now, we are hanging most of time during the day because our classes match and she always sits near me. We eat lunch and dinner together (we are both coming from some place else, and study together in another town hence we do these things together). She's in a student home, and I'm renting a place on my own.


She's likes to party a lot, since she's in a student home she often visits other guys or girls rooms (never alone, with her sister or girlfriends) and they drink and have fun till 5 am.


Since I have a place on my own, I feel kind of a left out, the amount of people I meet and hang out is significantly less. Recently I recognized that problem, my inner circle of friends is her and few other people. So I started to socialize with guys from college that I rarely go out with and they seem to accept me, inviting me to their parties and so on.


Back to "problem", I sense this girl is developing feelings, when I go home (my home town) she sends short texts saying she feels weird without me and misses me. When I invite her over, or tell her I need some sort of help help in college or whatever I ask, she compiles with no questions asked.

We had a short convo about our relationship (emmm.... About a month ago) where we agreed on our status, but lately her actions are telling me that maybe she wants to step up the relationship. But honestly, it's okay for her to party and get drunk when we are not in relationship but I don't think I would like that if we were.

Any insight would be helpful. Tanks.

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Sit down with her and be honest with her about your thoughts. There is a time to be manly and all that stuff. Then there is a time to communicate too. If you are friends then you should be able to do this. Start out by telling her you like her and you'd like to make things more serious but if you did that you wouldn't want her to keep going out. Just tell her you are a little selfish in that you would want her for yourself if you had her. Believe me it will work out better than it sounds. Women like to hear these sorts of things as long as its true.

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And as long as they guy saying those things is someone she considers quality.

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