So i meet this girl at a party out of town few months ago. It was going great, however the night ended early because her friend suddenly had to leave. I got her number, and we continued to talk almost every day for a month. She usually initiated, and we had very interesting chats. She asked me over and over to come back out (few hours drive) to her place so we cold hang out, however I stayed too busy for a long time to spare an entire weekend for a single girl. But finally last weekend she invited me to her Halloween party and I obliged. Even though I had been invited to other party's where a lay was pretty much guaranteed, I felt like we had such a good connection that the drive would be worth it even if I didn't get a lay but just got to know her better. Don't get me wrong, I fucking love fucking. But I've come to find that just fucking the girls that want to fuck is not going to get me a real life long relationship, in fact its counterproductive. Enough explaining why I was in my feelings instead of out sargin.. Fast forward to the party, I arrive at the party and introduces me to some of her friends. Before I even had the chance to turn around, she was gone. I just continued talking to her other girfriends for almost an hour, and took a few shots of tequila. This girl is still nowhere to be found, short of me searching rooms in her house with closed doors. So I get her room mate to go and find her.. Turns out she was in the back room with her "boyfriend" most assuredly getting her ass filled with cum. This immediately made everything that had happened that night make sense, if only confusing the rest of the situation even more. I ended up not seeing her except for five minutes or so, only for her to exit conversation when I turned around to address someone that had spoke to me. She never mentioned she had a boyfriend, even after ignoring me all night. I just partied hard with the other girls actually there to have fun, and left early in the morning. Next day, I get a text (how we communicate, I refuse to answer my phone usually) from her, in which she was apologizing for being "all over the place". The thing is, she was not all over the place. I know because I was bouncing around the entire party getting to know about a hundred people.. She was in her room most of the night, and the way only thing all over the place was moldy semen. (Do I sound resentful? I'm not)

My question for you guys is, what the fuck was this situation? Have I entered a new heightened level of the friend zone so bleak I have never before experienced it? Is this some kind of a ploy to make me jealous for making her wait so long to see me? Is she just a total hoe and simply couldn't go that long without cock in her? Why no mention of the boyfriend? I am not outcome Dependant on any of these questions, but it will determine how I handle her in the future. At this point, I haven't replied to her yet, as I don't want to fuck this situation anymore than she has already.. Most likely I am just going to move on, but 2020 hindsight is still not formed yet and I'd like some clarity, if anyone has input. I've left out a lot of details for privacy, but if you'd like to know anything further just ask.

She stuck you in the 'friend zone'. There's your explanation.

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That's what I was afraid of.. Still haven't replied, any help with that? I was thinking along the lines of "I sure had fun with all of your friends, although I had hoped to see more of you..."

Or should I just say fuck it and don't even reply and wait for her to try and contact again?

Here's my take aside from the friend zone comments which is true: she contacts you when she gets bored. You are there to entertain her. Based on everything you've said you don't strike me as a beta-wuss and so the best thing you can do is cease contact. When she questions it tell her it was unacceptable for her to disappear.

She'll say something lame, most-likely "I'm sorry." Then if she doesn't hear from you she'll say how she misses you/wants you in her life/etc. This is her showing you she's immature and beta and you don't need to waste your time with a beta chick.

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Too soon to start claiming friendzone. Here's the thing...she invited you to hang out with her on numerous occasions and you declined with the exception of a Halloween party (which she probably thought you'd decline as well). This other guy probably didn't keep turning her down when it came to meeting up as you did and he probably got her attention at the party. Her apology probably came because she was still interested but she couldn't act because there was another guy, which she didn't want to admit to you.

You failed to act and she went with another option. Ignore the boyfriend because this girl seems like she is more interested in fucking than developing lifelong relationships.

I disagree with ceasing contact because she has no investment with you. Being unattainable didn't work so far, so why crank it up more when it has been proven that you aren't the only option? Telling her that disappearing was unacceptable would be silly because it was her party and she wasn't throwing it for you and she didn't invite you as her date. It won't be a good look for you.

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I agree.

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Yeah this.
Look first start off with what do you want? Sex? Then don't be emotionally invested in a chick that lives far from you. Why on earth are so many guys here getting into these long distance things with girls they still haven't even slept with?! A relationship? Then again a girl out of town may not be your best option.

At the end of the day guys stop making shit so complicated... You want to sleep with a chick who lives far.. Either meet her or stop talking to her. Have her drive to yours even. But stop playing around.

she's playing games, freeze her out. definately dont scold her for anything, she wasn't obligated to do anything with you at the party.

if you do say anything, i would distract from her and make it about something else. like "met your friend anna, she's cute tell her i said hi!"

No.

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