Greetings!

I'm a beginner right now, and I'd like to ask your opinion on an idea of mine.

It is rather silly, but quite simple as well. I've used it as some sort of "Self-Esteem Booster" whenever I feel shy or small inside.

I simply imagine I am the King, I own the venue, and that all of the people there are obliged to receive me properly. So, I am not afraid to approach people, because I feel that they are supposed to be friendly to me. I also automatically become rather more courteous, polite, confident, and positive.

I know that the "King" persona seems a bit too highstrung or exotic (since that sort of power doesn't seem to exist widely here and now). Well, then, I think you can just replace it with any other type of really high-status societal roles.

I can, however, see just one possible flaw with this. The tendency with assuming that you are the "King" means you expect everyone to sort of be of lower to equal level with you. As a result, I kind of become more intimidated by other "alpha-looking" males; because they don't look like they are there to bow down before me or salute me or something, I see them as rivals/competition and it isn't quite a good feeling.

So, basically, the "trick" I'm envisioning in here is, whenever I feel shy and small, I start imagining that I am the King and that people are my subjects (but of course I won't start expecting them to bow down...lol), so I will be less scared to approach people, and especially good-looking girls, which are people that I am normally apprehensive to approach.

It goes with my idea that if I feel like a King and people my friends and/or subjects, then I will act like a King, be less shy, and people will see the confidence manifest in my body language and tone, and therefore, girls will be more easily attracted to me.

I am posting this here since I seem to have not yet encountered any similar ideas on this forum, or perhaps even the whole Internet.

So, what are your thoughts? Do you think it will help me in the long run? Do you think it is useful for others as well? Or do you think it can only be a temporary fix to a temporary problem? Please post your suggestions.

Thank you, and best regards,
Lonious.

I think it's a decent mindset. I do something similar and call it 'Being the shit'.

But yeah, i can imagine a king on the old times getting rejected off some club girls would have some serious consequences for the girl...so it kinda crumbles this mindset when rejection happens

Guys and fat girls are invisible to me, I don't even consider them competition.

It is a better mindset than being the Jester juglger entertainer guy, trying to make people like him etc.

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I agree with Dragula about it being better than getting people to like you. If it works keep on keeping on brah.
Just don't let it get to your head to the point where your toooo arrogant, but thats just my opinion.

Fake it till you make it can work.

It's not the route I'd take, but I don't really have anything against it either.

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Greetings!

I'm a beginner right now, and I'd like to ask your opinion on an idea of mine.

It is rather silly, but quite simple as well. I've used it as some sort of "Self-Esteem Booster" whenever I feel shy or small inside.

I simply imagine I am the King, I own the venue, and that all of the people there are obliged to receive me properly. So, I am not afraid to approach people, because I feel that they are supposed to be friendly to me. I also automatically become rather more courteous, polite, confident, and positive.

I know that the "King" persona seems a bit too highstrung or exotic (since that sort of power doesn't seem to exist widely here and now). Well, then, I think you can just replace it with any other type of really high-status societal roles.

I can, however, see just one possible flaw with this. The tendency with assuming that you are the "King" means you expect everyone to sort of be of lower to equal level with you. As a result, I kind of become more intimidated by other "alpha-looking" males; because they don't look like they are there to bow down before me or salute me or something, I see them as rivals/competition and it isn't quite a good feeling.

So, basically, the "trick" I'm envisioning in here is, whenever I feel shy and small, I start imagining that I am the King and that people are my subjects (but of course I won't start expecting them to bow down...lol), so I will be less scared to approach people, and especially good-looking girls, which are people that I am normally apprehensive to approach.

It goes with my idea that if I feel like a King and people my friends and/or subjects, then I will act like a King, be less shy, and people will see the confidence manifest in my body language and tone, and therefore, girls will be more easily attracted to me.

I am posting this here since I seem to have not yet encountered any similar ideas on this forum, or perhaps even the whole Internet.

So, what are your thoughts? Do you think it will help me in the long run? Do you think it is useful for others as well? Or do you think it can only be a temporary fix to a temporary problem? Please post your suggestions.

Thank you, and best regards,
Lonious.

------------------- Thank you for your input. When you do actually "become the shit", as you say, how do you actually make this happen in your mind? Do you kind of adapt a rather different, more "elevated" persona, like me, or do you change the way you view the people around you? If so, how? And is this a temporary "mode", so to speak, used only when you are in "gaming" situations, or is it like a kind of constant mindset you try to instill into yourself in virtually every situation? Sorry if I come of as being so naggy. I'm just eager to know about it.
Could you elaborate on this bit more, please? In particular, I want to know what you mean by "serious consequences for the girl". What is this situation you are trying to illustrate?
Ah, intriguing. For some reason this mindset did not actually occur to me before. I think it's useful. I'll give it a try.

However, aren't there instances when like there's a girl and a guy together, and then you have to talk to the guy first in order to "bait" the girl into joining? I read that somewhere on the Internet.

Or the "AMOG" situations where you feel the need to make the girl notice you even if there's another alpha trying to game her. What about those?
Could you please elaborate on this? What is this "jester" persona you're referring to? How does he act? What is his mindset? And why do you think my persona is better?

Once more, I'm sorry if I come across as asking too much. I'm a newbie and am eager to know many things.

Oh, and btw, in regards to your username - what a coincidence! You know, this idea of mine of feeling classy and powerful and all that in front of the girls I believe seems to be inspired by my fascination with Bela Lugosi. See, he seemed (on screen) to project this really magnetic presence. I can't tell if it's his tall, lean frame, sharp eyes, formal attire, accent, gestures, or the way he speaks (or maybe just simply a combination of all those factors) that makes his presence such a powerful one. He managed to be so charming, yet somehow sinister without seeming to try. I don't know how effective that vibe will be for a PUA, though (but I remain fascinated by it).
Thanks!
What do you mean by "fake it"?

Haven't you ever felt shy/small/insecure in front of other people? If you did, what did you do to overcome it?

Thank you for your responses, everyone. Your input is invaluable.
Lonious

I mean you're faking confidence so that you can feel confidence. Except it won't always work - especially in the face of something you perceive as a threat, like those "alpha-looking guys".
Look, there's short term solutions that yield little long term benefits, and there's long term solutions that yield little short term benefits.

Faking is a short term solution. It may get you laid tonight, but in the morning you'll be the same dude you were yesterday, except you managed to convince some drunk chick that you're the Lord of the Seven Kingdoms. And now her makeup is all smeared across her face and you realize she isn't even that hot.
Still, is it better than half the guys out there? Clearly.

Then you have the long term solution. Self-development. It most likely won't get you laid tonight just because you've decided from now on you're getting your shit together.
However, building a genuinely attractive life will inevitably turn you into a genuinely attractive male.

I went with the second option. It doesn't happen overnight, but to answer your question, no, nowadays I don't feel shy/insecure or small in anyone's presence.

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Thank you or your input, R.C.

Is my idea in any way similar to what is called "State changing"? I read it recently on the net and I think it sounds similar.
...ever? Were you born a natural already?

My question was not really if you are STILL shy/insecure in front of certain people, but rather, if you were EVER shy/insecure in front of certain people, such as people of authority, or other "alpha" males.

Just drop the 'subjects vs. ruler' and 'every single person must bow down to me' thing. It's basically the way you feel when you are in state or just feeling good in general. You own your world. Therefore you own THE world as far as you are concerned and you invite people in to experience the amazing ride with you. Many times they invite themselves in when you possess this mood. The people you interact with naturally get high off of your high vibes.

This is a universe of energy and nothing else.

Man i thinkin any mental trick thats get you taking action is a good mental trick.

Specially if it keeps you disciplined and consistant after your goals.

Cold approach is very effective when you can be confident, and kings are confident so what girl wouldn't want to be with a guy who thinks he's a king, as long as he's not an ass.

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