this can be a good thing for you if you allow it

I can't change my nature no matter how much I want it. I have to live with it. My friend told me I'm just good guy and I have a nature of victim of borderline personality. My friend is borderline herself so I think she knows what she is talking about. I would just make heaven on earth for woman I like.

However, there are some things luckily I can change. Self-esteem, confidence. Lately I'm really lack of these two things. Also, I can create a mask of bad guy. But I assume you know it's really exhausting in long term if you try to be someone completely opposite than you really are.


Actually, I would like to know your opinions, if you can naturally change in someone completely different (change, not creating mask) with enough effort and time.

Of-course you can.

That's what this forum is all about.

And the only disorder you suffer from is called "neediness".

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Yes, you are right. Neediness is big part of the problem too.
If I understand you correctly, you are trying to say complete change is possible?
In my opinion, it's pretty much impossible to change (I mean complete inverse) from good, caring guy to selfish man who don't give a damn anymore about others' feelings, because this is total negation of mans' nature. Nature with whom we live from the very beginning and is burned in our genes. Maybe I'm wrong, this is possible.

Yes.
That's because you're under the delusion that you're supposed to become some selfish "bad-boy" asshole in order to get women. You don't. You simply need to learn how to lead an attractive lifestyle and put your own needs first, and other people's needs second.
Nobody likes a doormat or a people pleaser.

There's a difference between being a good guy and a nice guy.

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WTF

You think we are all bad boys? Girls adore me, I'm still respected and friends with my ex. I think you're misinformed

Being a good guy is what we strive for, not bad boy or nice guy

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No, no, no. It was just example.

I couldn't be bad guy myself.
I just wonder how much can you change yourself. Where is the limit.

You can be whatever you want to be

Listen to some Anthony Robbins or some shit

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