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You're not standing up for yourself, you are throwing a tantrum. You know how you stand up for yourself if a girl is on her phone the whole date? You never call her again. If someone upsets you, there is an appropriate way to react, and that is by stating directly and honestly that you do not like waht that person is doing. You don't raise your voice, you don't curse, you don't threaten, and you don't act childish.
Shame some people are answering in a way that suggests you are doing the right thing.
I never said I raise my voice or curse I don't threaten. I tell them clearly how I feel and then I leave the scene . I think you read what I wrote wrong. The people are being getting nasty with me. I am always cool and respectful and leave. when they call me a cry baby or something. I ignore it and them.
What I've found from my experience is that you can actually TELL/CURSE them
AFTER they notice you getting upset. In other words, its your
ACTIONS which should convey that you dont like something. And when they notice this they'll probably ask themselves. At this time you should TELL them what you like or dont like. In present case, you've been "telling" them
BEFORE you showed them with your actions OR before they noticed themselves. Only in this case will people treat you in such a way. However if you show them by your
BEHAVIOUR instead that you dont like something, thats likely to have a much stronger impact on them. As its rightly said
"ACtions speak louder than words".
If they dont notice, then you don't say ever. Just stop talking to them/calling them or whatever you've been doing. Thats more of a PRACTICAL thing to show your values. Hope you get the point.
I totally agree with this. When ever such things occur for me I literally speak
WITH MY BODY LANGUAGE. The thing is they will
FEEL IT MORE. Actions are the direct way to tell their HEART that what they are doing just isn't right. I also totally agree that just leaving the situation is the perfect action - I recently had someone go really violent on me, I woke up this mourning with HATE TEXT's on my vibe - it would have been a huge waste of time to play their game and respond in anyway -
LEAVE THEM to hurt themselves. Because that's what's really going on in any instance they disrespect us.
Secondly I just wanted to also say NO ONE deserves to be treated badly in ANY WAY. FACT. Also just to note some women will test you - act disrespectfully or treat you bad. What I tend to find works the best is again the same that was mentioned here. DISPLAY through your ACTIONS by using
BODY LANGUAGE. Negative body language speaks 60% of what you want to communicate with them that it's not something you like.
I often don't even say anything - sometimes I sigh deeply turn away, cross my legs away, have my attention move somewhere else or even just walk away. This has also worked with my parents if ever they try to guilt trip me in anyway.
The bottom line is
YOU DON'T DESERVE TO BE TREATED LIKE THAT. It's actually good that you speak up. Just focus your voice into your body more and like was mentioned use your voice after or even less - that's how you can create a real impact. Otherwise they can continue to disrespect you further or feel like they are right in some way. Plus your not stooping to their level in anyway as your being authentic.
You will do it superstar! For real. It may look like this right now - it won't forever!
I belive in you brother!
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