I waste every opportunity I have ever gotten to befriend a girl. Now that I'm in college it depresses me even more because there's so many cute girls here; I think there's more girls than guys at my college.

I'll give you an example of my retardedness:
I'm sitting in the library and the girl sitting in front of me asks me if I could watch her stuff while she's goes to buy a snack. She comes back and offers to share her candy with me . I eat her some of her candy and I say thanks and then I go back to listening to my music (WTF is wrong with me?). We're there for a few hours and I could really tell she wants to talk to me or that she's interested in me. Yet I don't even LOOK at her. Why do I do this? I thought she was cute and I liked her. Yet I act like a 12 year old boy. The library is about to close and she starts to pack her stuff slowly and I could tell she's stalling; waiting for me to say something. But I say nothing. I pack my stuff quickly and I walk away (WTF?).


I feel like she was interested in me. Maybe she wasn't. It doesn't matter because I blew it. A cute girl spoke to me and offered me her candy and I didn't react. I don't understand why I behave this way. Am I afraid of failing? Am I just socially inexperienced/retarded? I need some advice from people who know what it's like.

I'm 27 years old and I'm getting so sick and depressed from acting this way. I'm lonely and I'm beginning to dislike myself. I'm fairy good looking, i'm white, i'm tall and I put it all to waste. What's the first step I should take to improving? I act pretty retarded around anyone really. If the situation is casual than I don't know how to act and talk. If the situation isn't casual then I'm fairly OK talking to people.

Also, what should I do if I see this girl again in the library? I like her.

If you guys want to help me I'm willing to take your advice and act, and I'll update this thread.

Hey,

This is all new to me to, but you identified you need to change and that's the first step.

Tell us a bit more about yourself. Do you live in a large populated area? If not i would up shit and leave like i'm about to do. Put your studies on hold for a year and address this problem. I'm moving to a large city to focus on this shit, cause their isn't a quick fix.

What have you read? I would suggest Mark Manson Models and apart from that I would suggest doing the newbie mission (It's in the opener part in the sub forum).

That's all it takes. Read a book and get out there and do it and don't bite of more than you can chew. Focus on opening, you'll get numbers and focus on message game. Once that's done focus on Mid game, then closing and day 2's, etc, etc. You get a sticking point, post it in the sticking point section.

You have a huge advantage if your as attractive as say you are.

All the best.

You need to start stepping out of your comfort zone.

What's the worst that can happen? She'll reject you? who cares dude?

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Hey man no worries, whats happening to you happens to everybody at some point.

Humans tend to be habitual and we tend to get stuck in mental patterns of thinking and mental patterns of actions and things we do over and over. And sometimes those things are not good.

The first thing you must do is be aware which you already are because that is why you are here seeking help.

Good job.

Now that you are aware of your bad behavior you can eradicate it.

You won't go from shit to hero in a day remember that.

You will still make mistakes but try not to.

If you do, get yourself back up and keep it moving, thats what winners do.

I personally didnt get good with women in a day, i did extensive research and seeked out proper role models.

There are many characteristics that make a well rounded man. You cant expect to just do nothing to improve yourself and get results, you aint a god. lol. Yet

Try starting with this great book called "The fine art of small talk" by fine debra

It explains how to socialize in general

On of my favorite parts is "Take the initiative" Dont ever expect people to start conversations, be the starter, be a man. (I Read this book years ago dont quote me :p )

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